Hi guys!
7 months ago I met my current boyfriend through a mutual friend and started dating a month after meeting. We added each other on Facebook after our initial meeting and started talking a few days after that, I thought he was really cute so I was super excited that he seemed into me. We talked everyday for about week and then he asked me to hang out (we went to a park and just walked around and talked). After about another week he asked me to officially be his girlfriend, I didn't think too much about it and said yes (I didn't know too much about him at this point, just basic stuff - we had similar interests and got along really well).
Everything was great the first couple of months, we go to different universities so he'd come and visit when he had time and vice versa. We were always super keen to hang out together (honeymoon period) but overtime I realised that I needed a break from seeing him so often and wanted to hang out with my friends more, this is when flags started going up. At first he was fine with that (he'd get a bit sulky if I blew him off but got over it), however, after a couple of weeks, he'd insist on visiting me at uni even when I specifically said that I wanted to have girl time with my friends (I already saw him the day before). It got to the point where I would let him tag along with us so he wouldn't be so moody afterwards.
This wouldn't be a HUGE problem if he got along with my friends BUT he's also really awkward and won't make a conscious effort to talk to them. My friends would try to initiate conversation but he will only give short answers that make it hard to continue conversation. Furthermore, if I'm talking to someone that isn't him for too long he'll try to pull me aside so I can have a private conversation with him instead. Due to this, my friends don't really like it when he's around because he just "tries to make sure no one can talk to me".
Now, what happened a few days ago is what really got me to seriously consider breaking up with him. I had my best friend over at mine and we were just hanging out, having girl time. We were going to walk my dog together and as she went to pee I updated my bf, basically telling him what we were doing and that we were going to walk the dog. He got weirdly jealous and said that he thought walking the dog together was "our thing" (we'd walked to the dog together 5? times since getting together) and wanted to drive over so he can walk the dog together with us. I said because, I thought that was super weird and OTT considering he lives a 20 minute drive away and it'd just end up being weird and uncomfortable. So I texted him back "sorry but I don't think that's a good idea, we can walk him together another day" and went out. 20 minutes into the walk I find out that HE DROVE OVER AND IS WALKING AROUND MY NEIGHBOURHOOD LOOKING FOR ME EVEN THOUGH I TOLD HIM NOT TO, I know this because he called me saying that he was super hurt that I didn't want him to come and he came anyway because he wanted to surprise me.
I was super pissed and told him and told him over the phone that he should go home and I don't want to see him today at all. We had a "talk" that night and he ended up apologising and saying he won't do something like that again. But the thing is, I've had this talk with him before and I'm not 100% sure that he'll keep his word. Should I just call it quits or keep working on it? I still like him and we have a great time when it's just the two of us together but his behaviour really gets on nerves.
tl:dr Started dating a really cute guy but he's becoming a little too possessive, don't know if I should end it or keep working on the relationship.
Submitted November 17, 2018 at 03:32AM by heyheyyouyou5 https://ift.tt/2Kbz8tN
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