I [28F] want nothing to do with my father [58M] after finding out he cheated on my mom [55F] during their marriage

My parents have been divorced for 8 years. At the time my siblings and I were told they hadn't been getting along and decided it was time to separate because we were all adults.

In the last month I found out the real reason for the divorce was because my father had multiple affairs during their marriage. He and my mom went to counseling and he swore it wouldn't happen again but it did. He cheated on her with a young woman in her mid 20's too, which I find pretty creepy. This all came from my aunt and my mom confirmed it was true when I asked about it.

Needless to say I was/am furious. I've always been really close with my dad but now I feel like he's a stranger- a sleazy, creepy, selfish, disgusting one. He betrayed our entire family, not just my mom. Of course, she had it the worst. I tear up every time I think about what she went through. I feel so much anger, maybe even rage, towards my dad.

Last week I sent him an e-mail letting him know I was aware of his past behavior and wanted nothing to do with him going forward. He tried calling and texting. I replied once and told him if he continued to harass me I'd be filing a police report.

He ignored my wishes and made a new e-mail account (his old one was blocked) to contact me. He wrote out a long letter, explaining how he was unhappy but that didn't justify his actions and how he loves me and my brothers more than anything... blah blah blah. He was very upset because in my original e-mail I said he would never have a relationship with my daughter (I'm pregnant). He said the thought of not knowing his grandchild is killing him. He wants to meet up and talk in in person but that isn't happening. He isn't going to manipulate his way back into my life like he did with my mom.

My oldest brother thinks I'm overreacting and wants me to at least give him one chance to talk. I'm certain I want nothing to do with him.

What do you think I should do?

tl;dr: My dad is a serial adulterer and I have cut him off. My brother wants me to hear him out and give him a chance to explain himself.

Submitted November 04, 2018 at 07:41PM by rxtsthrw https://ift.tt/2JEpdMZ