I (25f) broke up with my bf (32 m) of 7 months yesterday for micro cheating and he's spreading lies.

Excuse formatting I'm on mobile. Tl;dr at the bottom.

I'm not gonna lie. The way I went about breaking up with him was at the very least petty. I had been having some bad feelings which 99% of the time I'm never wrong about, call it women's intuition or whatever.

So, I decided to go through his phone yesterday morning to get rid of any doubt. At the very least, I figured I would find nothing and cop to going through his phone and apologize for doubting him. I'm never above apologizing for doing something wrong. However, that wasn't the case. I found so much stuff I was sick.

He was talking to multiple women on the internet, one of which he referred to as his 'sister' that he's known for years and lived with before. Another was a woman in Texas who he told I was his 'roommate' and that he was saving money to go be with her. And lastly was a woman in the UK who he told we split months ago and he had no idea why I still had our picture up and he would tell me to take it down and he was gonna move to the UK to be with her in January.

So, obviously I was upset. I thought about the things I could do in that moment and I decided I was going to tell these women what was going on. I chose the one in the UK first. But I didn't just come out and say, hey, so and so is still with me (not for long) just wanted you to know. Instead, I messaged her as if I had no idea, and asked her if she would edit a picture for me that bf had drawn for mother's day. (She had edited a bunch of his drawings before and was just generally good at it.) I continued to gush about how happy I was with him and how it upset me that I didn't get him anything for our 6 month anniversary and I wanted to do something for him. I proceeded to send her a picture of the drawing and a picture of him asleep in my bed telling her how cute he was.

Basically she flipped out an hour or two later and sent me a bunch of screenshots of their conversations as well as nude photos that he had sent her in my bed. With this concrete information, and me never having to admit to going through his phone, I confronted him. I woke him up and went off. Showed him the pictures and told him he could either cop to it or show me his messages with her to prove me wrong (he was claiming the photos were manipulated.) Obviously he couldn't prove me wrong because I had seen the same messages in his phone, but instead of copping to it he just said he didn't have to prove his innocence, just his point. Tried to put blame on me for "hiding my phone from him" in the middle of the night.

At the end of it I told him he needed to be out of my house by the time I got off work. He said he would but that I needed to pay the phone bill and give him $200 for my gun that he put some money down on. I told him I wouldn't be giving him anything as he had lived with me 7 months rent free, had used my car every day to get to and from work, had never bought his own groceries, and that I had bought his ticket to and from Indiana twice when his mom passed.

After I was at work, he continued to try to tell me everything was a lie, and had gotten the girl to say she had taken some things from a chat they were in out of context, which didn't matter as what was said, was said in private messages to each other. But I just said, yeah that's fine. Doesn't change anything.

So now, he's telling everyone that he proved his innocence and that I was just using this as an excuse to break up with him because I'm seeing someone else. (I'm not. I work and come home to my children and never go out unless it's to the store.) And that he's the bad guy despite being a loyal bf.

The kicker is I took pictures of all the conversations between him and all three women. He had albums for two of them with all their naked pictures in that I have pictures of, so basically I have so much proof and so much evidence that could ruin several lives as two of the women are either taken or married.

I allowed him to sleep on an air mattress in a spare room until Wednesday so he wouldn't sleep on the streets because it made me feel bad and he's still a human even though he's a liar and a pos. I now kind of regret that decision, especially since he's telling people I'm making him sleep on the streets.

I apologize for the novel, but I'm so frustrated and can't wait for this whole ordeal to be over.

Tl;dr Broke up with bf for online cheating with several taken women, became petty and dragged one woman into it before confronting and kicking out bf. Bf then tells everyone he was loyal and proved his innocence despite me having hard evidence that could ruin lives. Now he's asleep in my spare room until Wednesday and I regret offering kindness.

Submitted November 05, 2018 at 06:37AM by thisispandemonium https://ift.tt/2Qjher1