A friend of mine (23, M) just came out to me as being gay. Problem is, we have a mutual friend who's also his girlfriend (22,F).

TL;DR: Friend came out as gay. Has a girlfriend who's also a mutual friend. They've been together for 3 years. Situation is pretty awkward now.

So, over a couple of beers last night, a close friend of mine told me that he was actually gay. Or that at least he felt that way cause he'd found himself being sexually attracted to numerous guys over the past couple of months more than ever before in his life. He's from a very conservative Muslim family and very recently (2-3 years back) started thinking about the world from a non-religuous perspective. Basically since he came to university from Pakistan. So, I attributed this new found self-awareness to him just giving himself the liberty of being able to think about sexuality in a non-taboo way.

Anywho, I tried to inquire if he was still attracted to women since he's currently in a relationship with a mutual friend and suggested that maybe he was bisexual. Problem is, he just said no, asap, without hesitation. He doesn't really know how to tell his girlfriend who he's been with for 3 years now and both of us have mutually known since first year and are relatively close with. I feel like 3 years is a long time to have been with someone romantically, had sex with them and never realized that one was actually into the opposite sex the whole frikin time. This is why the situation is super awkward and neither of us know what to do at this point. I'm not particularly judging his choices or how he feels about his newfound knowledge, it's just awkward and I'm afraid that he, she or maybe even both of them would end up getting hurt.

How does he/we go about this?

EDIT: A redditor pointed out that because of this being a big no-no in his community there is also a possibility for potential harm that could come to him. So I'm gonna discuss this possibility with him and update you guys about it. In the meantime, advice with this added knowledge would be much appreciated!

Submitted November 17, 2018 at 01:27PM by rohank101 https://ift.tt/2QRxKij