Wife (32) can not maintain sexual attraction to partners, wants to stay in an otherwise happy marriage, giving me (38) sex, without being sexually fulfilled herself.

We've been married almost 6 years. We have two children. a toddler and a baby.

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Before we got married, my was very honest with me about her relationship history. She'd had many relationships and all of them ended because of incompatibilities, but by the time they broke up, she was bored. She felt certain that longterm relationships were not for her because, eventually, sex became an obligation and attraction dwindled, and her partners felt too much like family and she didn't desire intimacy with someone who felt like a brother to her. She was afraid that all relationships for her would end up that way and didn't see herself sexually fulfilled unless it was with new people, so she didn't see herself ever getting married.

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I entered the picture and she seemed to have had a change of heart. She said she knew I was the only guy she could ever have a future with, the only person she could build a life with and have children with. She admitted she was afraid intimacy would start to feel familial again, but she wanted a different life than tthe temporary love affairs she had been running for years. I believed her. I still want to.

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Fast forward a few years. She's an incredibly loving mom, she talks all the time about how much our kids are her world, and I know she doesnt regret marrying and starting a family with me. But she 'doesn't desire me anymore. It isn't anything I've done, she says. She still loves me, still thinks marrying me was the best decision of her adult life, and that she never would have found someone she wanted to marry if it hadn't been me. She still has sex with me on a regular basis, gives me plenty of blow jobs and wants to see me sexually satisfied, but she doesn't often want anything sexual in return. The only time she ever gets horny is when she drinks, which isn't often. I haven't touched her in months (just her, just to please her), though I've offered and tried. She always says "no thanks, I'm okay," and pleases me instead.

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She doesn't want to be touched. She swears she is happy, and that we are okay, but that the thing that turns her on is "new relationship energy" and she always knew that was the case for her. She knew it would happen with us and she chose to marry me anyway.

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I know she is still capable of having a sex drive and she has admitted she would be insatiable horny in a new relationship, but only for a time, and it would be the same thing all over again. She was tired of the cycle and decided to bite the bullet and build her life and start a family, sex life be damned.

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How am I supposed to feel about this? I am at a complete loss. Is this normal? Can I fix it? Should I?

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For the record, I am not worried about her cheating. I'm worried about her denying herself fulfillment because I can't give it to her, or she can't receive it from me because I (and all sexual partners eventually) feel like a brother to her.

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Tl;dr

My wife has never been able to keep a sexual attraction to a partner. She married me anyway, sex was amazing in the beginning, but as she predicted, she lost her desire for me. She feels like it is inevitable for her in all relationships and would rather have a sexless (on her part. She still pleases me all the time) marriage with me and be happy than have a series of short term love affairs that are sexually exciting for the rest of her life.

Submitted August 28, 2018 at 12:07PM by Throwawayofcourse35 https://ift.tt/2ojERDs