My girlfriend [27F] of three years remodeled my [29M] apartment while I was on a business trip. I hate it but don't know how to tell her I want to undo most of the changes.

I did tell her that she could change some things if it would make her feel more comfortable, because I know she's been very homesick lately after moving from her home state so she could be with me, but I never said she could redo everything or even make these kinds of extreme changes. I thought she'd probably change out a few pieces of furniture, pick new blinds and perhaps do some light painting. The point being I was not expecting major changes to my apartment.

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When I came back from my trip, everything had been changed. She had all of the rooms other than the common areas painted. She bought an entirely new set of furniture for the living room and new stools for the bar area in the kitchen. Everything has been reorganized and resorted as well, so I can't find anything anymore. It is awful.

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I also hate how light the apartment looks now. I prefer darker colors, but she likes less "drab" colors.

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What may be the worst thing though is that she's ruined my office and my man cave because she wanted a guest bedroom. My office is now so full that I barely have room to do anything.

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I'm not sure how to undo some of the changes without hurting her feelings. She did put a lot of effort into it, and everyone loves it except me, but it doesn't feel like my home anymore. How do I start a conversation with her about this in a way that won't upset her? At the very least, I'd like my office back and to go back to darker colors for our bedspread and bedroom.

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As a side note, the reason I am posting here is because my best friend seems to think I'm being a control freak and should learn to adjust. He thinks that what I'm really fighting is learning to co-habitat full time with her. I strongly disagree with him, but I'm open to reconsidering if other people also agree with is assessment.

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tl;dr: My gf remodeled my apartment while I was away on business. I hate the changes but don't know how to tell her I want to change things back (at least partially) without offending her. How do I do that?

Submitted August 27, 2018 at 08:27PM by ky_homme https://ift.tt/2PadMxY