We moved to Canada just before the pandemic hit and she managed to make some friends that she quite likes and get on with, i made some friends also but they’re not really my kind of people. She went away at the weekend and came back unhappy because her friends are doing a bunch of things during the pandemic like going out on their boat and leaving the city (we don’t have a boat or a car). I went to meet my friends and didn’t have the best time with them and also got into an cycling accident and hurt myself pretty bad. I wasn’t feeling great so just wanted to stay in the past couple days. She then says to me last night that its really hard on her me not having friends and that i don’t bring anything to the table socially. This has come up before and i’ve said I know its tough but when things open up again I can meet new people, which i very much intend to do. Anyway we got into a big argument because I felt like shes just kicking me when i’m down. Just had crap weekend and want to stay in and shes on at me saying why aren’t you going out. By the way we are still in full on lockdown and have been for months. I just don’t know what to do.
tldr- my girlfriend is annoyed at me for not having any friends during lockdown
Addition: I’ve don’t think that i’m overtly overbearing. Last time she went to this same cabin she was upset that I wasn’t texting her enough. During this pandemic she has definitely relied on me a lot for emotional support, often spending weeks missing home and me comforting her. I think this adds to my frustration as she cant show me support. Before she went away this time she was saying how sad she was to be going away that weekend and that she wanted to spend it with me. Then she comes back and it seems like shes got depressed about her own life comparing it to people who have lived here for 10+ years and are set up with a network of friends.
Shes not a particularly extroverted person, she finds it hard after hanging out with people for more than two days. I’m usually the extroverted one talking to new people and doing most of the talking in group situations. Before we came to Canada we both had separate friend groups. I definitely wasn’t like this before the pandemic, I was often out seeing friends. Thing is I still talk to friends back home on the phone and stuff zoom chats etc so its not that I don’t have anyone. She just says how hard it is that i’m not settled in Toronto yet. Im not too chuffed with the situation myself, but i’m just trying to get through it.
Submitted June 02, 2021 at 06:23AM by miniaturecorn https://ift.tt/34Ge4Xp
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