Sexually unfulfilled after baby

Sexually unfulfilled after baby

My husband (39M) and I (31F) have been together for 7 years and married 6. We always had a great sex life until I became pregnant. It seemed to freak him out to have sex while I was pregnant and we only did it about 3 times during the pregnancy. He was so worried something would happen to our son that I didn’t think that much about it and just accepted it. Typically, before the baby we’d have sex 3-4 times a week. Well the baby came and after we got the green light to have sex I expected him to be all over me but nothing happened. I kept bringing it up and tried to make it fun. Let’s do something special etc. but still no interest. I started to get really insecure. I am a tiny person. I probably weighted 100lbs when we got married and after the baby I was 110lbs which I am aware is still tiny but I got it in my head that it was the weight. I managed to get back under 105lb pretty quickly and then he was interested again. He knows this is fucked up by the way. The problem is that post our baby boy he had no interest in me enjoying sex. There is 0 foreplay. Our son is now 2 and the problem is the same. I’ve tried everything. Talked to him, lingerie, role playing, I even bought sex toys to make it super easy for him. But every time we have sex which a couple of times a week we make out for a minute and then he just goes to put it in. I’ve ended up at the doctors a few times this year with vaginitis from having sex without lubrication. I said I couldn’t do this anymore and he agreed to use lube but nothing else has changed and I don’t know what else to do. Ever time I talk to him about it he acts super sympathetic but nothing changes. He is the perfect husband and father in every other way so I don’t know what to do.

TL;DR husband became indifferent to my pleasure after I had a baby

Submitted June 29, 2021 at 03:04PM by sunnycoollc https://ift.tt/3jwuPfZ