It’s not as stupid as it sounds, but here I go.
My sister is my only sibling, and she’s always been a problem child. She and my mom would get into screaming matches daily when i was a kid, whereas I kept my head down and didn’t cause trouble. Somehow, though, my sister has always been treated better than me our whole lives. My parents tiptoe around her feelings and desires because she’s like a ticking time bomb, and I’ve always been expected to do the same.
I’m grown up now, obviously, and live on the other side of the country (USA) so I only really see her at holidays. However, any time we are together it’s a constant barrage of verbal abuse and insults. It started last night when I got home from the airport, she starts going on about how bad I look (sorry I was traveling for 6 hours?) grabbing my bun and telling me my hair looks terrible, picking at my face asking what’s wrong with my skin, etc.
I’ve been home for like 10 minutes.
Then today she comes skipping into my room and starts talking about how my parents got her SO many more Christmas presents than me, and she hopes I’m ready for the “Kylie Show” on Christmas morning (name changed, but you get the point).
Now, I’m old enough to not actually care about the number of presents I get. I’m happy to get any presents at all, but her constant taunting and tearing me down has begun to impact my mental health this past year. After this latest interaction, I got in my dad’s car to run an errand for him just so I could cry in peace.
The worst part? My parents have always told me to “let it go” and “don’t take it personally” because this is her way of showing me she loves me......uhm WHAT?! I’m so sick of that excuse. If my boyfriend were treating me this way, nobody would tell me to suck it up because it’s his way of “showing love”.....that’s totally insane.
At this point I don’t know what to do. If I explain to her that this behavior hurts my feelings, she tells me I’m being too sensitive. If I get mad and start defending myself, she flips it around on ME for getting angry. I love my parents and I want to keep coming home for holidays but not if I keep being treated like this.
TLDR; My sister has a pattern of consistently teasing, insulting, and berating me. Parents have always told me to “let it roll off my back” because this is her way of “showing me she loves me.” I think that’s insane and they shouldn’t keep excusing her bad behavior. At this rate I will cry on Christmas and I already want to go back home.
Submitted December 21, 2019 at 12:53PM by kara_danverss https://ift.tt/2QfFdsC
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