My (28) family mom (60), dad (64), brother (32) and his wife (25) want me to buy a family house together.

Long story short, I don't trust my brother. Three years ago when my brother was in full control of the townhouse we lived in kicked us (mom, me and dad) out of the house and kept all the profit $150k from the sale. About year and half of later after blowing $50k, he came around. My mom and dad forgave him instantly and got him married (arranged) in India. At that time 2018, I forgave him due to all this family re-union and even invested with him in an apartment. He lived in the apartment with his wife for year and a half. Now the apartment is getting sold and rest of the family member want me to buy a family house together. I said no, mainly because I don't trust my brother. May be he is changed now. But during the past year and a half he did not make much effort to apologize to me directly, or hang out and do brotherly things. Last time he was in power It did not end well for me. When he kicked us out my mom was an emotional mess. I manned up and got my mom and me one bedroom basement suite together. Mom and me worked together and saved $50k. This time my parents are saying we both will be on the title so things will be different. His wife and him who even though are newly married have fight every few weeks that my parents have to intervene in. I am studying for my CPA so I don't want to be part of the drama. I want me and my parents to live alone (on rent) as we are currently living and have my brother and his wife visit on the weekends and holidays just like part year. Two days ago I made it clear that I don't want to buy a house together. Ever since my mom has been an emotional mess. I heard my dad wanted to basically yell at me like he used to as a kid (a lot of childhood package alcohol abuse etc). Looking at my mom all I wanna do is go home today after work and be like lets live together (only to make everyone happy). That would kind of make me happy since my family be happy. But deep deep down I won't be happy in the long term. What should I do :( Be christ like and sacrifice myself. Or stand my ground and be on my own? My mom has made it clear that If I don't join them in family home I will be living by myself. It is a very expensive city in Canada. And I have never lived without my mom.

Tl;DR : Join my clever (maybe changed) brother for joint ownership in family home to make my mom happy? Or be independent and be family less?

Submitted November 20, 2019 at 04:09PM by Wheninvancouver https://ift.tt/2s6hVwP