My (25M) husband keeps being dishonest to me (27F) about the smallest things. We havent even been married for over a year and do not have kids yet. Should we separate?

My husband is a overall good person. We have a good relationship, I do love him. But he keeps being dishonest about small things. He watches porn, and i have told him im ok with the fact that he watches porn. But he will still go ahead and watch porn and deny it. Even though i know hes watching porn. He will scroll through other reddit forums that involve girls in lingerie, which i am NOT ok with.

I do not view this as cheating, i will sometimes also watch porn.

We have an active sex life, we will engage in intercourse at least once a day. And i usually do whatever he asks me to do. So he is not being deprived of sex.

The first time i caught him doing that he apologized and promised he would not go to those forums again.

I found out he was still doing going to those forums on incognito, he confessed. He came forward and told me he had gone to those forums once more. Obviously i was mad because he had promised me he would not go those forums.

Which erupted in a fight. I do appreciate him letting me know that his wrong doing. But it irks me that he promised he would not go there and still ended up caving and going there.

Its not even so much that he goes to see those girls in lingerie or nude but the fact that he made a promise he cant keep. This honestly gives me no hope for the future. I want to be with someone that is completely honest with me. I am scared that with time i will lose all the feelings i have for him, and be stuck in a loveless marriage. Which is something i do not want, since i witnessed that with my parents.

How can i make him understand that i want him to keep his promises or not make a promise at all. Is that even possible? or will he just become sneakier? Should i throw in the towel and just separate before we have kids?

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TLDR;

Husband keeps being dishonest about the smallest thing. Should we separate or is there a chance of making it work.

Submitted November 06, 2019 at 10:12AM by blankblakbnkd https://ift.tt/2CnonBr