I am looking for advice on how to manage a child who is extremely slow at doing anything. My wife [F25] and I [M27] recently (3 weeks ago) took in a young boy [M10] through a program called Safe Families for Children that helps families in a rough spot without getting the foster system involved. He is generally very respectful and well mannered but is extremely slow at doing anything. It’s hard to do anything with him because it’s going to take 10 minutes to get him to put on his shoes, he takes an hour to eat a normal dinner, and takes forever to do his homework (which he understands completely).
I know that a lot of it boils down to not following directions when asked, but he’ll also do it when getting ready for things he wants to do. While it’s a pain at home, I really want to help it to get better at school. He’s extremely bright and his teachers say that he picks up on all of the school work for quickly, but with his reluctance to do the assignments without a lot of prodding I’m afraid he’s going to be left out of the advanced classes when he gets to middle school (much larger than his small elementary school).
Does anyone have any advice on ways that we can work on this? Setting time limits for things seems to work sometimes but only when it’s an immediate consequence like bedtime being 8:30 but the tv can’t come on until his teeth are brushed and in his PJs. Trying to do something like that when getting ready for school doesn’t really work.
He does have pretty severe ADHD and has medication (Ritalin) that controls it pretty well.
TLDR: 10 year old boy has no sense of urgency in doing anything, even things he wants to do.
Submitted November 03, 2019 at 01:08PM by watergator https://ift.tt/36oLv0d
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