This might sound like a weird problem but it's one I've been having for a while now. When I'm talking to my boyfriend of 3 months he often brings up topics he's passionate about and I wish I could discuss them with him but I usually don't know enough or don't really have an opinion on them. It ranges from everyday kind of stuff, music, history, to political issues. Although I do watch the news and read newspapers occasionally I have difficulties talking to him about such things, even about ones I'm familiar with. What makes it even harder is the fact that he often talks in endlessly long monologues, getting sidetracked many times before arriving at the end of whatever he wanted to tell me, and asks me for my opinion on the things he talked about afterwards. As someone who's not particularly good with words anyway it's usually way too much to comprehend/reply to at once.. all I can do is give short reactions.
I don't mind listening to him without talking myself (could listen to his voice all day) but I'm scared he will think I'm stupid/a girl with nothing in her brain and no opinions on anything. He's also really funny while I still have difficulties making jokes when I'm around him for some reason? It's the same way when we're around our (mutual) university friends. Maybe it's just that my brain stops functioning because I'm not 100% comfortable around him yet but those situations almost feel like those oral exams I dreaded in high school. How can I change this?
tl;dr: My boyfriend is smart and likes talking about various topics like political issues, I (for some reason) get nervous and don't know how to reply which makes me feel stupid
Submitted November 22, 2019 at 07:46AM by ijchincandora https://ift.tt/2KHzzNK
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