throwaway because people know my account, and I haven’t told anyone about this yet.
My girlfriend [26f] and I [31m] met at the gym around 18 months ago. I go there to work out 5 mornings a week before work at the around the same time and she worked out then too. It was always pretty early so a lot of the time it was just the two of us in there, which led us to notice each other and give a little ‘haha it’s just us again’ awkward smile. I always thought she was cute and guessed she might like me because it seemed like she could have been deliberately coming to work out when she knew I’d be there. And not to be cocky but I’m a decently attractive guy. One time I was doing the lat pull sort of wrong and she came up to correct so that I didn’t injure myself, which led us to get talking. After being gym acquaintances for a few weeks I eventually asked her out for drinks. From then, we were inseparable and we’ve been dating ever since.
Our relationship is really great. All my ex girlfriends would constantly pick fights and be kinda needy but she’s so easy and we have a great time together. We’re active people s so we do a lot of sporty/outdoor activities together, which I love. I honestly thought I’d end up marrying this woman.
After around a year we moved in together - it made sense because we were spending most nights together anyway, and we could get a nicer place if we paid rent together rather than the separate one bed apartments we were living in.
Now this is where it gets weird - recently she was flying back to her home country (she’s British) to visit her family for a couple weeks. She called me in a panic because she’d forgotten her passport and was scared she’d miss the flight. She asks me to get it out her bedside draw and drive to the airport to deliver it to her. I find it amongst her stuff and when I pick it up this driving license fall out. It was kinda tucked into it. It had her picture and details but with a completely different name.
I was obviously really freaked out and suspicious by this but I decided to act normal until she got back from her trip, to give me a chance to investigate before I blew up at her. So I drove to the airport and gave her the passport and a kiss goodbye like nothing had happened. While she was away, I had a thorough look through her stuff (in her bedside draw and some of her suitcases under the bed) and found 7 separate ID cards with 4 different names including the name I know her as.
So many possibilities were running through my head the whole time she was away. I was terrified that she was not the person I knew and loved. When she got back (couple days ago) I sat her down and tried to confront her in a way that was open and calm as possible, even though I felt like screaming -
She has had 3 other serious boyfriends that I know everything about. She told me that she legally changed her name after each breakup - to ‘help her get over it and start fresh’. She said that she felt her identity had been tied up in her long term boyfriends so when the relationships ended she felt like she needed everything to be new in order to get over it - including her name. She explained that the reason she moved out of the U.K. was also for this reason. She apologised for hiding this but said it wasn’t nearly and dodgy as it seemed. She got upset with me for not letting it go after she explained so we argued and she’s been staying at a friends since then while I think this through.
I don’t know what to do and if I should end things because of this? Even if it is true it’s a huge thing to keep from someone and it’s so over the top. I’m so fucking confused and don’t want to give up the marriage/kids I could have with her one day... where the fuck do I go from here.
TL;DR: I found loads of ID cards with different names belonging to my girlfriend. She says that she has legally changed her name following all the relationship break ups she’s had.
Submitted July 14, 2019 at 03:25AM by bvdgcvkhcxx https://ift.tt/2LrS3nF
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