My best friend [23F] won’t spend the night when she visits me [23F] because her husband [31M] told her he’s not comfortable with my boyfriend [23M].

My best friend and I grew up together and now we live in separate places 3 hours away. We’re very busy during the year and don’t get to see each other that often so I was super excited to have her come and visit me in my city. Originally we were planning on spending the whole weekend together. Today she texted me that her husband is uncomfortable with her spending the night at my place because he doesn’t know my boyfriend who I live with.

My best friend met my boyfriend and loved him. Her husband had never met my boyfriend. He’s a very normal person who planned on staying out of our way the entire weekend and sleeping on the couch. Now my best friend wants to get up super early, drive all the way here, and then presumably drive back after a long day with me.

Quick backstory: my best friend and her husband met at their church. They are both super religious and didn’t live together until they were married. There was an incident earlier this year on my birthday where my friend came to visit me with another one of my friends. After the party, we all went out to drink but she and my other friend left without telling anyone at 2 in the morning to drive 3 hours back. In her haste to leave, she even took my parking pass and my car ended up getting towed.

She told me the next day, after I had frantically called, that she had left the night before because her husband was uncomfortable and wanted her to come home. But she skirted around the issue and never gave me a straight answer. Ever since then, I have felt like her husband doesn’t like me and thinks I’m a bad influence because I live in a more “liberal” city. I also just think he doesn’t want his wife to be reminded of the days before him when she was “free.”

I feel like my best friend’s husband is being very controlling of her and I’m worried it’s going to drive apart our friendship. I miss her and I want to spend time with her and it’s frustrating that I can’t spend the whole weekend with her. I’m also just worried about her driving here on so little sleep and then driving back that same night after a full day with me.

My boyfriend is very willing to go spend the night somewhere else but I think it’s ridiculous that he should have to leave his place. I’m also just worried about how controlling my best friend’s husband is and I worry about how this will affect our future relationship.

Is there anything I can do or say that can convince her to 1. Come spend the night in my city and 2. Not be controlled by her husband? Or is this just a lost cause that I’ll have to deal with the rest of my life?

TL;DR My best friend is planning on waking up early, driving three hours to see me for a full day, and then driving back home because her religious husband is uncomfortable with my boyfriend that I live with. The husband has never met my boyfriend and probably knows very little about him and I think this is just another episode of him controlling my best friend but I’m unsure what to do.

Submitted July 15, 2019 at 04:21PM by hunterbossbabe https://ift.tt/2lwPNiV