My (35F) boyfriend (33M) of 5 years secretly took a cab to take "a walk" at night while out of town.

My 33M boyfriend is in San Fran for an interview. We were video chatting w/ our 3 year old after the interview yesterday. Saying he missed us etc. All normal happy stuff.

He left NJ at 3am for the flight there, told us he was exhausted and headed to bed.

I messaged him at 2:10am my time (11:10pm his) that I was up bc our 3 yo wet the bed again. He responded with 'poor girl' and nothing else.

This morning we video call him as was planned during breakfast for our kid to say hello to daddy. He answers without video which is not normal. We call frequently with video. I asked when did you get home and he kinda hesitated before saying 3am. He offered nothing else.

I found this morning he took a lyft to Chinatown at 1120pm PST and didn't cab back to his hotel til 3am.

He messages me nothing, says nothing so I message him after breakfast about being out all night and he says he needed to take a walk. Says no cheating happened.

This man has a terrible sense of direction. Cant read a map etc. But went for a walk in a city he doesnt know from 1130pm-3am... Huh?

And mentioned nothing about it even though he knew I was awake here at the same time changing sheets on the east coast. Why not mention that he cant sleep and am headed out? No pictures or comments about his walk. Says he was going to mention it in the morning.

Thoughts? My nerves are shot. He has a major history of being dishonest. This was our time to be transparent and open to rebuild trust for our family. Why leave his hotel (which is already on the water with a fantastic view) in the middle of the night?

I'm ready to pack up and leave him.

TL;DR Boyfriend out 1130pm-3am when he said was going to bed. Has history of lies, says didnt cheat. Says couldnt sleep, took a 20 dollar cab to Chinatown to "go for a walk". Sees no issue with what he did. I feel gaslighted.

Submitted July 13, 2019 at 12:41PM by little_blue_fishie https://ift.tt/2leEiwC