My [19f] boyfriend [22m] is absolutely intolerant to anything "mainstream," and makes fun of me for the things that I like. He doesn't understand why it's hurtful/annoying.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. When we met, I was 17 and still in my phase of "everything mainstream sucks, I'm different and cool!" We avoided things like like pop music, reality TV, mainstream fashion culture, whatever like it was the plague. Anything that got too popular was automatically "lame" to us, end of story.

I don't feel that way anymore at all. I started listening to "basic white girl pop music" sometimes, watch "trashy" TV shows, wear what I want whether it's trendy or not, much to my boyfriend's dismay. I just like what I like, I'll try anything once. I've also matured a lot in the past two years, and I don't judge people for the things that they like/enjoy anymore because life is too damn short. I like to feel that respect and treatment in return from the people that I surround myself with, and for the most part, I have, except for my boyfriend.

The issue for me isn't that he doesn't share my tastes. Obviously I wish he would be a little more open minded and at least attempt to share these interests with me, but that's another story. I just want him to stop scoffing and making sarcastic comments every time I bring something up that I like and he doesn't. I just don't know how to get it across how annoying it is that he does this. I've brought it up before and he doesn't take me seriously. He just does it again the next time. It's like he can't help himself.

For example, the other day I was folding my laundry in his room and had "pop" music (he hates Khalid, I like him) playing in the background. Bf walks in and IMMEDIATELY he starts going off about how he doesn't understand how I can listen to and enjoy such "generic, shitty music" and asking me to turn it off. He only ever wants to listen to music that he already likes; if I play music that he thinks is stupid or generic he immediately asks me to turn it off. It's really frustrating.

Or another day, we were in bed and doing our own thing on our computers. I decided to watch an episode of Riverdale. This was met with comments about how terrible the acting/writing is, that watching it is a waste of time, etc. Anytime I bring up a TV show that I'm watching that he thinks is trashy, he'll immediately shut down the conversation and say something like "I really don't wanna listen to you talk about this."

This is really hurtful to me. He's my best friend, and I don't like feeling judged. He's a great boyfriend in most other areas, so it's not breakup-worthy for me, but it's really wearing on me. When he makes comments like this, I'll sometimes call it out and respond with something like "why do you have to judge the things that I like? I don't judge the things that you like, so please stop doing it to me" but he just scoffs and shrugs it off and does the same thing again next time. I don't know how to make him take me seriously and stop. I'm at a loss for how else to bring this up and make him listen to me, and would really appreciate any suggestions.

TL;DR: My boyfriend makes nasty/sarcastic comments about the things that I like but he doesn't. I've tried to express that it's hurtful and just plain annoying when he does this, but he won't listen to me. Need advice on how else I can attempt to bring this up and actually get through to him.

Submitted July 24, 2019 at 06:38PM by LatterEnergy2 https://ift.tt/30R2ogr