EDIT: I've gotten a few replies so I think it's best to adress them all here: thank you guys so much for all the advice. It warms my heart to see so many people like her. Like I said to another user, I know this post sounds selfish and judgy and all kinds of condescending. But it's been 20 years of sharing stories, secrets, and life experiences. She suffered a lot with her depression and still struggles with it sometimes, and that breakup tore her apart. But you guys are right, there's no cause of concern and she's choosing this life and her own path. I'm just worrying too much. Again, thank you for the replies, guys. It helped a lot.
We're both 26. I've known Ann for 20 years. She's my best friend, my family and very important to me.
She's very private about her things, always have been. When we were kids I remember her mom asking her to bring friends over (other kids always wanted to hang out with her) for her brithdays, but she always replied that she was okay with just a small get together consisting of her parents, my mom, me and her grandparents.
Fine, I know this isn't cause for concern, she's just private. The thing is, as we grew older, she grew more and more reserved. She's really beautiful, gorgeous, and boys were all over her and she turned them all down for the longest time. She has one night stands and she has the habit of giving a fake name whenever she goes out with someone because she doesn't want them knowing who she is.
She fell in love once, it lasted 4 years. The only relationship she had. But the guy had so many plans for them and his own future and Ann just sort of thought it was too much and things fell apart and he grew so angry over that that their breakup was pretty awful.
Since then she's gone back to one night stands but she rarely goes out now.
She's been suffering with depression since she was 13, and then she developed an anxiety disorder along the years. She was in treatment, then stopped shortly before that relationship. She has since gone back to treatment, therapy and meds. She's on prozac and other meds I don't remember the name now.
Ann also has some 'weird' behaviors such as:
She hates the day. She's truly a night owl. The only reason she opens the windows during the day is because she knows it's good to let some sunshine in.
She loves music. LOVES IT. But she's private even about that. She hates listening to it on the radio, she likes to listen it with headphones and just tune out for a while.
Which leads me to this other thing: she hates outside noises. It overwhelms her. (Just to point out: she's NOT autistic and isn't on the spectrum.) She gets easily irritated if people are loud or if she has to be in the middle of acrowd somehow.
She reads a lot and is an amazing writer. I keep encouring her to write her novel but she seems to be stuck right now. When she's among us, her family, she lights up a lot and can be extremely goofy and funny. She's very smart and has a sharp wit. She's loyal to us, sometimes to a fault, and also very protective. She's super attatched to her pets, too, and takes care of them perfectly.
She loves the beach, has a fixation with the ocean and nature. She has said many times she wants to move to a beach house or some cottage in the middle of somewhere.
My worry is that she's isolating herself more and more and pushing people that are not her family away. She doesn't want to get married or have children and that's completely okay, but I'm about to get married and my fiance wants to move and I'm so worried about Ann. I love her so much and she's such an amazing person that sometimes I feel like broadcasting it to the world.
How can I be of help here? She's so introverted, so private, I don't want her to keep isolating herself like this. I want her to be protected too. She protects us (her parents and me) so much and we do the same to her but god, I don't know. She's basically a hermit and I just want her to be happy.
tl;dr: Best friend is very introverted and I fear this is going to cause her suffering in the long run.
Submitted July 14, 2019 at 09:20AM by RoughEvent https://ift.tt/2lkwNEg
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