I (27F) feel like living with my BF (28M) is like living with a roommate and I don’t know what to do.

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I’ve been with my bf for just under a year. We’ve lived together for about 2.5 months now. Recently I’ve been struggling with some side effects from my medication which prevents me from getting aroused and having orgasms, so intercourse has been really limited, and this has taken a toll on him. We’ve fought about it a few times, and I’ve gone through two medication changes since it started to try and find something else that treats my anxiety and effectively and also doesn’t give me side effects. I’m also going to see a psychologist. I’m making tangible efforts to fix my problem, but I don’t have an end date and he has voiced that it’s really frustrating to him and that he has needs.

My bf has a high sex drive, and I’m worried that my sex drive will never be high enough for him. He has never forced me into anything but he has told me he will stop trying to initiate things because he doesn’t want to make me uncomfortable. Since then, the romance in our relationship has effectively stopped... we still kiss goodbye before work and occasionally but that’s it. We don’t cuddle. He doesn’t flirt with me or hug me or touch me at all. We just sleep next to each other and talk about our day, have supper together, etc. I feel like I’m just living with a roommate.

I got upset a few days ago because I have a very high stress job in healthcare and I was exhausted after work. I told him I was going to take a nap, and he told me he had some mail at his parents house to pick up and he’d be right back. 3 hours later, he still wasn’t back. I have no issue with him spending time with his parents (they are fantastic people and I love them) but when I texted him asking if he knew when he’d be home (I was thinking about supper) he walked through the door two minutes later. It could have been completely innocent but it looked so suspicious, especially since the same situation has happened multiple times in the past.

My sister has agreed to let me and my cat stay at her place for a week so we can have a break from each other. I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure I can satisfy his needs, and I hate the lack of romance in our relationship. Where do I go from here?

TL;DR: my boyfriend has lost interest in our relationship and has ceased all romance because I can’t fulfill his needs in the bedroom, and I’m not sure where to go from here.

Submitted July 12, 2019 at 10:27AM by throwawaymiss4 https://ift.tt/2LOrVm4