How do I [F24] support my best friend [F24] with her new relationship [M30's]? I am finding it difficult because he is a horrible person

I have been best friends with this person [F24] since elementary school. We are still close to this day.

To start, my best friend and this guy work together. He is her boss. He was engaged when they met. His then fiance [F?] moved from somewhere in England to the US to be with him. His fiance and him were in a 5 year relationship I believe. At somepoint during this engagement he got really close to my best friend and started an affair with her. It went on for a couple on months and lasted until a week before his and his fiances wedding. The fiance at some point during the affair suspected something and asked him to cut contact with my best friend. However, he still continued contact through snapchat then returned to text messaging after awhile.

After the wedding my friend tried to cut it off, but he kept texting her. He sent endless text messages even after she stopped responding (like a lot of messages that would go unanswered). He was set to leave work after the wedding in a couple weeks for a job in Scotland with his now wife. During this period my best friend was very depressed. She was forced by her office to plan a wedding party for the new couple. It was just overall crappy for her since she claims to love him.

Which brings us to now. He is in the process of getting a divorce (as of last week) after about three months of marriage. He claims that he realized he didnt really want to move to Scotland with his now ex wife. He claims his ex wife was a horrible person that made him do all the housework. He claims he never wanted his ex wife to follow him to the US. Oh and he still hasnt told his ex wife about the affair.

So now my best friend has been messaging him back telling me that she loves him and wants me to give him a chance. She says she needs to make stupid decisions in her life because she hasnt made a lot of those yet. She also hopes that is works out even if it has to be long distance (since he is still moving to Scotland).

I have zero respect for this man and Ive been struggling to not judge my friend. How can I support my friend while still not trusting this man she claims to love? How do I make her see this guy is a terrible person?

I apologize if formatting is weird. I am on mobile and a first time poster.

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tl;dr: My [F24] best friend [F24] had an affair with her boss [M30's] even though he was engaged. He got married and is getting divoriced now and she wants a relationship with him. How do I support her but also help her see this guy is bad news?

Submitted July 23, 2019 at 11:41AM by Minitaco2 https://ift.tt/2y5Y0hj