Link to original post here:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/btose7/my_26f_fianc%C3%A9_30m_of_6_years_doesnt_want_me_to_go/
The TL;DR of my last post was that my fiancé didn't want me going on walks by myself because I have uncontrolled epilepsy and I felt super trapped.
First, I just wanted to thank everyone for your thoughtful comments-I took them all to heart and read them through and brought up some of them with my fiancé. It really helped.
The night after my post, we had a long talk and came to a compromise. I got a location tracking app called Life 360 and guys, the first few times I went on walks by myself I was NERVOUS. I hadn't been out anywhere on my own in YEARS so it was a really big step for me. I did have some issues with overstimulation at first when routes weren't exactly clear. Now we're at the point that I don't need to tell him if I'm going out. Overall he's become much more comfortable with me doing it-I'm going whenever I want and oftentimes he's in meetings that time of day I go so I know he's not tracking me. And he got the app too-it's loaded with features like showing your speeds, how many times you use the phone etc. It's actually helping him be a better driver.
We're also going on more walks together; I'm cooking more and baking again. I do only BBQ when he's around and actually next to me because some of the people in the last post with epilepsy told me to stay away from them.
But now we've come across a bit of an issue.I've discovered people have a nasty habit of running through lights, stop signs, etc. the first two blocks in either direction outside our building. A person got ran over crossing the street last week, and I'm sad to learn that this isn't the first time this has happened. It makes me question getting a dog but I'm hoping that if I just stick to low traffic times of day and don't bother crossing if there's any cars at all then I'll be alright. Thoughts?
TL;DR I'm "allowed" to do what I want to do. Our relationship is in a fantastic place and I'm feeling much more confident doing normal things again.
Submitted June 17, 2019 at 03:32PM by Throwawayfuglyshorts https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/c1u6dm/update_my_26f_fiance_30m_of_6_years_doesnt_want/?utm_source=ifttt
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