My[18F] brother-in-law[38M] kissed me, and tried to sleep with me. I am so confused on what to do because my future is on the line.

My sister Teresa[33F] has been married to Rick[38M] for 15 years, but they have been together for around 18. That being said, I have known Rick for my entire life. He has always been like a real brother to me. So much so, when my parents moved back to California after I turned 12, Teresa and Rick let me live with them, and have taken care of me since then.

From the outside looking in, Rick and my sister seemed to have a perfect relationship too, they hardly argued, and my sister has not had to work one day in her life. Rick always just bought her everything she asked for, he always did the same for me too.

I recently learned that I got into NYU, but I had no idea how I would afford it. My parents aren't rich, and I thought I would have to work 2 jobs and go to school full time, plus go into debt for the rest of my life. Again, Rick comes to my rescue, and promises he will take care of everything for me.

Fast forward to last night, I went to a party at a friends. It was a beginning of summer pool party. I dont usually drink, but for some reason I did. I got extremely drunk. My best friend called my sister to pick me up at the end of the night, and Teresa sent Rick instead. During the ride home, for some reason, I got a bit emotional. I started telling him that he was such a great man, and that I hope I find someone like him one day, and that my sister was so lucky etc.

He started talking about how proud he was of me. And how I grew up into such a smart, beautiful woman. I didn't notice that he had pulled over by this point. He touched my face and called me beautiful again. I was so dumb, I have been in that situation with boys before, I should have known where it was headed, but I didn't.

He reached over and pulled me in for a kiss. I should have stopped him, or smacked him or something. But I didn't. I just kind of froze and let him kiss me. He started to grope me under my bikini top. I still didn't say anything. He was touching me all over and kissing my neck. I finally whimpered out to him to stop when he started to put his hand into my bottoms.

He didn't stop right away, I dont k ow if he heard me. I said it a little louder twice more. And he stopped. He asked what was wrong, and was I okay. I started to cry. I cried like i have never cried before. I said why did you do that, my sister is going to hate me. You ruined everything.

He just sat and stared at me for a little while. After a few minutes, he asked me if I were calm. He said that my sister would be fine. She wouldn't hate me. This whole thing was just a mistake, a misunderstanding. He apologized. He said I should just forget all about it. I said I dont know if I could. He said he knows I can, and will. He said that this was my last summer at home after all. In the fall I would go to NYU, and also, he was going to surprise me later, but he and my sister had decided to buy me a brand new car to use at school. He said that he really was proud of all of my hard work, and he would hate for it all to be for nothing just because of an embarrassing misunderstanding.

We drove the rest of the way home in silence. This morning he took the whole family, including me to denny's. It was like none of that even happened. He went to work a bit later.

I dont know what to do. I dont know if I should tell my sister, or if I should just keep it to myself. Telling would affect so many people. I dont know if in my drunkenness i sent him signals. If i tell, i will ruin things for my sister, for my nephew[8M], for Rick, and for me.

What should I do?

TL;DR After knowing him my entire life, my sisters husband kissed me and tried to sleep with me. I stopped him, and he said it was just a misunderstanding and I should forget about it. I dont know if I can.

Submitted June 21, 2019 at 09:49PM by ManacuredClause http://bit.ly/2Xnaq2w