My mother (50s) is trying to waltz back in my (26m) and my brother's (21m) lives after walking out on us over 20 years ago

Like literally just walked out. Didn't even get a neighbor to watch us. Just disappeared and left us to fend for ourselves until our dad got home from work. I was 5 and my brother "B" wasn't even 1. I still sometimes have nightmares about that day.

Now decades later she reaches out and says she wants to make amends. I just ignored her phone call but I guess B called her back. She apparently apologized for everything and claims she had some kind of mental breakdown (I mean I figured this much) and by the time she got her shit together it was years later and she was too ashamed to come back. She's only reaching out now after some time in therapy.

I have absolutely 0 desire to ever speak to her again. But B wants to get to know her and thinks I should too. He keeps telling me it's not her fault that she was sick and I should try to see things from her perspective. I think he's just excited about the idea of having a "mom".

And okay whatever. He obviously doesn't remember her or that day but dude. SHE FUCKING ABANDONED YOU. If she actually loved us, she would have come back a long time ago. I spent my childhood taking care of him because she was too chickenshit to do it herself.

Is this just me being a stubborn asshole? Do I just keep saying no until he drops it? But even then the idea of him even talking to her makes me sick. She doesn't deserve to get to know him. How do I get him to see past whatever she's pulling and see her for the piece of shit she is?

TLDR Mother comes back after abandoning us 20 years ago. Little brother wants us both to forgive her and have a relationship with her and I'm trying to figure out on how to talk him out of it

Submitted June 19, 2019 at 01:27PM by throwzawayyyyyyyy http://bit.ly/2Rsy20b