This is in regards to my co-worker (50s-ish,f) who we will call Kate, and I (25f).
Kate likes to chatter a lot, most about her home life. I just go along with it, because we all need to vent every now and then, and I have a hard time setting boundaries, even if it makes me sort of uncomfortable, but it continued to escalate.
It started with how her daughter excludes her from her grandsons life, and how awful her daughter treats her. Then, she started to comment a lot about her new boyfriend, so also treats her horribly. How he yells at her, manipulates her, how he is jealous and monitors her behaviors, calls her names, etc.
I usually just sympathize, but don't add much to the conversation and quickly move on. It's usually an update when I first see her, and then we move on to work. But I am afraid that clients we work for will hear her, as she isn't very quiet about it all.
But today took the cake, when, as I was typing into my computer trying to do work, she went on about how her boyfriend was awful, and into "horrible stuff that you wouldn't believe". She then went on to say he went to nude parties, and flat out said he has been into beastiality for 10 years. I was shocked, and said I did not want to hear that, but I couldn't help but laugh nervously. I think she thought I thought it was amusing, but I was very uncomfortable. She went on to say that her boyfriends brother lived right next to her, and mentioned he was gay, for some reason. Again, oversharing details about her life and everyone in it. I moved on, and then she moved on to her work.
I know I have to talk to her or higher ups about this, especially since I work with impressionable clients in a group home, who absolutely hear and pick up on her unfiltered talking.
I've never had to report anyone before, and I would like some advise on how to report this as professionally as possible, and all around how to handle the situation. I have a hard time with confrontation and setting boundaries to be perfectly honest, and I am also afraid she will gossip if I rock the boat.
tldr; we work at a group home with impressionable consumers. She overshares details of her life, and recently said her abusive boyfriend was into beastiality. I am shocked, and need help setting boundaries and handling the situation professionally.
Submitted June 16, 2019 at 09:25AM by isamario http://bit.ly/2wYaXZM
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