My boyfriend(M22)’s mom invited me(F22) to family trip and I discovered I was uninvited about three weeks before leaving.

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years and we’ve visited his hometown several times together. On our last visit, his mom took us out to dinner and made a huge deal about taking us both to Disney World with her younger daughter this summer, mid June.

We’ve never been and always talked about going together, so boyfriend and I were very excited. I’m a huge Disney fan, which was something boyfriend knew and he would get me Disney movie soundtracks as presents all the time, so this trip was a really big deal.

The trip is on Monday and about two weeks ago, I brought up the trip and boyfriend told me that it was just going to be his immediate family. I want to preface my disappointment with the statements: I never expected to be invited on a family trip with boyfriend and my family couldn’t afford to bring him on one since we don’t have a lot of money, so he would never expect to be invited to go with us.

That being said, it hurt my feelings that I was invited and then un-invited without being told about it only to discover 3 weeks before the trip that I’m not going. Boyfriend said I’m wrong to feel hurt and every time I’ve tried to talk and tell him how I feel, he gets mad at me and tells me to be alone until I’ve decided to get over it. He told me not to bring it up when I see his family because he doesn’t want them to feel bad and he wants me to drop it.

Again, I’m not upset that i didn’t go. I’m hurt that he didn’t tell me until I brought it up 3 weeks before the trip was supposed to happen and that he and his family thought it would be better to let me think I was going for months than tell me sooner that for whatever reason, they couldn’t take me.

Boyfriend and I had planned on going to six flags tomorrow (each paying for ourselves) which was his idea I think because he felt bad about me not going to Disney. Today he tells me that he can’t afford it since he won’t be working next week while he is on his trip. I’m also not working next week since I’ve gotten those days off, but I’m just frustrated now because it’s the second thing he’s bailed on recently. Again, when I tried to bring this up, he got mad at me, saying I’m being selfish since I “should know” his rent is twice what mine is and so he can’t afford as much right now and then told me to talk to him when I “don’t want to fight.” Not that it matters, his parents pay for half of his rent and i pay for mine in full. This is something we’ve been planning and I’m mostly upset he doesn’t want to talk to me about any of it and gets mad at me for bringing these things up.

TL;DR: Boyfriend’s family invited me to vacation. 3 weeks before trip, boyfriend informs me that I’m not going. Boyfriend invited me to six flags to make up for it but one day before says he can’t afford his half due to trip.

Submitted June 19, 2019 at 11:38AM by AryAngel21 http://bit.ly/2Xxw8B7