My mothers dementia has been progressing for about 8 years. It is at the point she no longer seems to recognize me or anyone else in my family. She stopped eating a few weeks ago. I was able to feed her when she stopped eating on her own. Now she has just stopped opening her mouth when I tried to bring food to it. She clenches her jaw shut and says "no." She now gets less than 100 calories per day.
She is in hospice care now and on a pretty heavy regimen of morphine. This is so heartbreaking. She is so scared, confused, lonely and sad. I am so helpless. It has just been slowly getting worse and worse for years. It has been devastating on my father. He is now just emotionally drained and probably will need a nursing home soon. I wish I could find some comfort in thinking she would be in a better place, but I am an atheist and I really think that when she dies, that it is it. I have worked hard to keep her alive but I just cant get her to eat anymore. Before it got bad she said she did not want a feeding tube and we are sticking to that. They have been saying she will die soon for a few years but I have been hand feeding her when she wont eat for anyone else. She is no longer willing to eat. She does not seem to recognize me anymore.
TLDR:
I am just crying so hard. Fuck. I hope posting this brings me some comfort. If you are going through this, I hope you find a reason to smile.
Submitted June 17, 2019 at 03:49PM by lickticket https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/c1udb9/my_49m_mother_77f_with_dementia_has_stopped/?utm_source=ifttt
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