Here's my conundrum:
First off, I want to say that I do love this woman. Just not in a "wife" type way anymore. We have been together 8 years and have a 7 year old kid together. She moved in with me a week after we went on our first date and our son was born 9 months later. We moved fast.
She was abused as a child, in MANY heinous ways, and basically grew up a ward of the state and on the streets. Her parents were crackheads. I do not know how she isn't a heroin addict with the PTSD she lives with. Not to even mention the neurological issues she has from being beaten to a pulp by one of her exs.
I try to be empathetic, as I know she deals with hell emotionally and mentally, but she doesn't work, she will not let me statt her a online store to make money and refuses to get her GED or let me pay for her to attend a trade program, will not apply for disability, and honestly doesn't take care of the homefront while I work 60 hours a week.
I do want to say she is an excellent mother (somehow) and has done a wonderful job overcoming the fact that her mother was a crackhead that prostituted her as a fucking child. Our son adores her.
But I feel so neglected. I feel like her errand boy. There's no "good morning" text. Theres no date night. There's no "how are you". Nothing like that. I've given EVERYTHING to give this woman a life and help her overcome her past. I've loved this woman more than I love myself. I've neglected myself to get her the help she needs.
I want to move on despite the fact that I have a love for her that's hard to explain. But I feel obligated to her. Why? Because I know that unfortunately, if I ever leave her, she will spiral. She doesn't have any family to bring her in or any decent friends. She doesn't have a trade to support herself. She's completely dependent.
I don't know what to do....
Tl:Dr: I can't leave my wife because I know the end result will be ruinous for her
Submitted June 22, 2019 at 01:27PM by bossish251 http://bit.ly/2WUJhzv
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