My (25F) partner and I (25M) are splitting because our feelings have seemingly evolved from ‘romantic’ to merely ‘platonic’. Need advice

We have been in a relationship for nearly 4 years. For a while now, we have been having a few troubles keeping any kind of romantic ‘spark’ alive. We’ve been struggling to find interest in sex also. Her more so yet I don’t know if I’ve been just going through the motions as sex is what is ‘expected’ in relationships or whether I’ve genuinely wanted it.

In spite of this, we love each other dearly and can’t possibly see a situation where we are out of each other’s lives. We are determined to remain friends and work together (we are both actors and even run a small indie theatre company together). We have made the decision to split I suppose as a sort of preemptive strike against a potentially bitter break up in the future as the intimacy issues were starting to cause anxiety and friction between us. We still thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, are on the same wavelength on many issues, such as politics, pop culture, sense of humour etc and we know each other so well we feel we could still provide each other with a good source of support in future (after a suitable break).

I myself feel somewhat confused and am not sure if I genuinely feel my love for her has evolved from ‘romantic’ to merely ‘platonic’ or if I am kidding myself it has. I keep flipping between resolute determination to see the break-up through and sobbing my eyes out, saying I want her back. We live together also which opens up several other sticky cans of worms.

My main questions I suppose then are: a) based on what I’ve put above, is this kind of future relationship possible? And b) are we simply panicking and having a knee-jerk reaction?

EDIT: Thank you all so much for your advice and words of support, really blown away by the kindness being shown on here. We’ve just finished another long chat and the decision to split stands. She doesn’t feel a sex therapist or anything would work, and I’m not sure if I do either.

TL;DR My partner and I are splitting because we have lost that ‘romantic spark’ and our feelings have seemingly evolved into something ‘platonic’. We are determined to remain friends both for each other and for work but I wonder if this can be successful. Also, I’m not 100% convinced if this is for the best or not and whether it’s a knee-jerk reaction.

Submitted June 19, 2019 at 06:26AM by EdLob http://bit.ly/2ZwM2J3