tl;dr my brother has become arrogant, rude, self-righteous and entitled recently. I don't like him anymore and it's upsetting me. Is his attitude something that could pass?
I love my brother, but I don't like him. A few years ago he got very into drugs and became "spiritual", he became very rude to our mother, and patronising towards me. e.g. once he said "you wouldn't understand, you've never done drugs so you don't know what the world is really like". He generally talks down to me and I'm pretty sure he sees himself as smarter than me (and most people).
He's recently become vegan and he's got worse - I'm a vegetarian which he says is "pointless" as I haven't completely cut out dairy. He has a very holier than thou attitude about it, and will regularly talk down to meat eaters. It's very difficult because I do agree with a lot of what he says, he just goes about everything the wrong way and it can make people feel uneasy. He is your typical 'preachy vegan'.
He sees himself as very wise. Recently he got himself into a bad situation. As a result of this, he fell out with about 5 of his friends. He does not seem to understand what he did wrong, but it's obvious that he did do wrong (I can't say what he did as would be easily identifiable if he found this post). After this happened he said "well I've learnt that my wisdom is a gift and a curse".
It's becoming exhausting, I dread visiting home because all the attention is on him and his attitude. I'm visiting currently. He's spent his money on pointless, expensive things and complains about being 'poor'. Our mother made food for us both, and he ate all of it. Mum accidentally bought him a leather belt and he threw a fit. He speaks to everyone like cr*p and seems to see himself as God's gift. He's completely self absorbed.
Every conversation you have with him either leads to him preaching about something, or a massive argument. Sometimes it's easier to just shrug or nod or brush him off.
It's hard to put the whole thing into words and there's so much more I could type. But the worst part is, that I just don't like him as a person anymore. I can't have a conversation with him. Our parents are divorced and it's just us two kids so we used to be really close. Now I feel like I don't even know him anymore. I stopped talking to him for 2 months and he didn't even notice.
Has anyone else been through this with anyone? I feel like I'm waiting for him to snap out of it / go back to his 'old self' because if he's like this forever then I don't want to spend my time with him. Or do you think there is anything I should be doing to help? He struggles to form and maintain friendships because of his attitude and I don't know if it's a sign that something more is wrong?
Submitted June 16, 2019 at 04:57AM by littleduckcake http://bit.ly/31CU3hC
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