EDIT: After a while of posting and reading the comments, I would like to sincerely apologise to everyone for this useless rant thread, I was so fed up with my father I didn't realize I was just complaining here. I do realize this is a situation that is not up to me to fix, nor am I responsible for anything, I'm sorry for troubling you with stuff that I should deal with while keeping my mouth shut.
As for moving out, while it may seem easy, I absolutely cannot do that, first things, I live in Syria, houses and renting and the country's constant war simply makes things WAY too expensive to even be acceptable, I already am fully independent with the only exception of housing, I pay for all my needs, my car insurance, my uni education..etc , I work 3 jobs and manage to do just about okay each month. I can move out to an apartment, I actually used to live in one alone, but I had to move in to my parents house (their suggestion) since it's only 20 minutes away, while my apartment is 3 hours away, and thats the only range of manageable houses and apartments, in the country side where I'd have to drive 3-4 hours to get to uni, and 5-6 hours to get to work, simply, not worth the effort. So yes, I know, this is a complaining useless thread that probably shouldn't be posted on this subreddit, I once again sincerely apologise for this, I'll have to shut up and just deal with this, which I'll do! Thanks for all responses nonetheless! I really appreciate them regardless!
"Cut off the good tape from the boxes, we'll reuse them when we need to."
"Don't throw away any electronics, the copper in them is expensive, we can also use them as spare parts."
"Why did you buy a sandwich? Just eat bread with olive oil, it's healthy and cheaper."
This is everyday life for my mother, sisters, and I ; we suffer at his unbelievable cheapness everyday! My dad is a type of person who doesn't like spending money, doesn't like "wasting" money, but also is a type of person who doesn't like KEEPING MONEY
My father is a hot-headed man, always yelling, verbally abusing, hates luxury but wants it without spending a dime, he keeps yelling at my mother and fighting with her because she got us a quick pizza as she was too tired to cook.
He always has been like this, I never had a birthday party nor did my sisters, he never cared for my mother financially and is often taking money from her even though he has his own job. My sister didn't succeed much in school because my father didn't want to pay for it. And overall he simply doesn't care. What does he do with the money he has? We have no clue, he works both as a night guard and an electronics repairman, his first work doesn't require him to do anything, just go, from 2pm till 2am and just stay there, in his room, doing whatever he likes, and his second work, it doesn't seem he is benefitting ANYTHING from it, because he keeps working for services rather than working for money, like, fix my car, I'll fix your PC but that doesn't even work cause people just abuse that and don't work for him, he actually loses money because of that job than earning! It drives my mother mad and many many many times I've seen her crying because of that.
YET, he keeps rattling my mother on why she spent $5 on a new shirt for my sister for Christmas! (We don't even celebrate Christmas, Thanksgiving, or any other holiday, cause my father will cause a mess and yell if we do.)
Just recently, our AC unit got broken also thanks to him, so normal people would call in for a repairman to fix it, a specialized person who knows what they're doing! but no, my father? absolutely not! he likes to fix all things by himself, as long as he doesn't spend a single dime for SERVICES! He wants to get the people he works for to fix it, but those people couldn't care less, I don't blame them, they're work is already tough as it is, and my father not paying them wouldn't be encouraging them to work. I told him I know a buddy of mine who's father has a long experience with these, and he can work for us with a discount (so he would agree), but he yelled, and yelled, and yelled, caused a huge fuss, made my mom cry, and got on my nerves, because who knows what that asshole might charge! we don't have money for him, why don't you wait for my friend to come and fix it for free!? (That "friend" is supposed to come, 5 months ago)
So naturally, he tried to fix it himself! A habit of him, only ending up in him breaking the AC unit even more, he dismantled it and didn't put it back together. (This is also how my old car is broken, he dismantled the ENTIRE CAR just cause he wants to learn how an automatic transmission car works, ended up breaking SEVERAL CRUCIAL PIECES OF THE CAR, and using silicon glue to fix it.. yeah.. | Also how he broke my laptop's screen, trying to fix a small nudge it had (I have more experience than him when it comes to laptops, I wanted to work on it myself but he didn't listen). ALSO how my new drawing tablet got broken, he tried to fix it himself (when I planned for a professional to come), ended up breaking it beyond repair.)
In general, right now, I'm super pissed at how my dad made my mother cry, and just is this idiot of a cheap guy.I work myself and do earn money that when he isn't around, I call in professionals to fix stuff, and just buy my mother whatever she needs.
I can't stand my father anymore, it's getting on my nerves, what should I do? Even though he does a good thing every once in a blue moon, I am growing more and more hating him.
TL;DR: My cheap father yelled and got furious over my mother because she wanted to fix the AC unit by calling a professional, saying he has a friend who can fix it (but haven't showed up in 5 months), and simply is against paying money for services. This is just an example of what he does, what can I do?
Submitted June 02, 2019 at 08:39AM by ThatUselessNPC http://bit.ly/2JS1f3E
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