My girlfriend and I (of 8 years) were talking about kids. We’d had a few drinks and this topic had come up before but the end was always that she didn’t want kids and that was okay with me.
When we first got together I was very adamant about wanting children and a family but because she didn’t want any I was comfortable respecting her choice and expecting to be child free for the rest of my life. Anyways, tonight she was talking about having a kid and discussing the idea of it — who would be our donor/egg, who would carry, and the logistics of their raising. I let her know that I had been interested in having a family but was fine without one if she wasn’t interested. One thing behind her desires to be child free that dissuaded me from having any children is that she has a strong temper and strong anxiety. We’ve raised a puppy together and I was the main caretaker for the puppy. A lot of her interactions with our dog were freaking out (screaming) and then freaking out (screaming) in front of the puppy. It was just exhausting.
When we were raising the puppy together i realized that children were off the table because while I loved her and could handle her temperament I didn’t want to introduce any more innocents to that. Tonight, with the conversation, I was getting hopeful. It sounded nice that she was sharing my ideal of a family and talking somewhat seriously about it, but eventually the conversation soured. I was trying to play with her and she just became nasty about it. She was calling me names and being rude and the dream suddenly faded reminding me of why I didn’t want to have children with her in the first place.
I’m not sure what I’m here to ask, but has anyone had a partner like this before/currently and what advice would you give?
TLDR my girlfriend was talking about wanting kids but she turned on me afterwards and I'm concerned about bringing children into our relationship.
Submitted March 02, 2019 at 09:13PM by throwitawaynow24582 https://ift.tt/2C3IBAg
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