I'm (F20) living off food stamps while my partner (M29) gets to spend without much worry. We live together.

Hi everyone. I will start off by saying that I hold a full time job and take any hours I get. My partner has a full time job that pays him well over twice as much as I make, and he gets regular handouts from his parents.

Everything I earn goes towards paying my share of our rent. What little may be leftover is used for public transportation and necessities. I have no money left for food and therefore rely entirely on food stamps to eat. I want to save money, but I can't. I'm getting nowhere and I know my living situation is unsustainable.

My partner, however, enjoys his comfortable life in the city with a somewhat spacious apartment. He isn't rich but can spend several hundred at a time if he wants. He convinced me to move somewhere larger than I was prepared to because he sincerely thought I would be fine. He, after all, was fine when he moved out at 18. But he also had many roommates and rent was significantly cheaper. I should have been smarter about moving, but I was 18 at the time and had no real idea how much living on my own would actually cost. I also trusted him that we would work things out between us financially.

I don't blame him for my position but as you might imagine it's causing me distress when I often skip meals to have enough food in a month while he is perfectly fine. I have talked to him about it before but he thinks I should start taking out loans and go from there. I don't want to live in debt.

My ideal situation would be either him paying more for our rent so I can begin to save, us moving into a smaller place here, or a cheaper place in the subarbs. He does not want to change his current lifestyle.

TL;DR My partner of 3 years is well off while I'm working for rent and struggling for food, all while we live under the same roof. What should I do?

UPDATE :

I want to say outright that he knows I am on food stamps but he doesn't know that I will skip meals sometimes. So he isn't willingly starving me or anything like that.

We don't make dinner every night and those are usually the nights I skip meals.

Submitted March 01, 2019 at 05:23PM by josie0199 https://ift.tt/2NDTHR0