I [21M] interfered when my cousin [14F] was talking/flirting with an older boy [20M]. Girlfriend [21F] accused me of being controlling.

So I noticed my cousin was affectionate and flirting with this boy during a neighborhood party last weekend. I don't think there's any good reason for a 14 year old to be flirting with a 20 year old. I don't even think there's a good reason for them to talk to each other like that, so I interfered. I just went there and told my cousin that her mom was looking for her, took her to my aunt and uncle, told them what happened and they asked me to take her home.

I took her some advice, told her that it's not appropriate or safe for her to be talking to boys that are that much older than her. She said she likes talking to boys and I told her that she should just hang out with boys who are her own age, that's fine. She seemed to understand it, I'm sure my uncle and aunt will give her the same advice.

Once I was back to the party, I told my girlfriend what happened. Earlier today, she came to me and accused me of overstepping my bounds and being controlling towards my cousin, saying I'm "baby"ing her and she should make her own decisions. I don't agree with this mindset, I think I was just looking out for her and it was for her own good. She's 14 and can be stupid (like I was at that age). Girlfriend believes I have no rights to make that judgement.

She has demanded that I apologize to my cousin and promise her that this will not happen again, and I really can't make that promise nor am I going to apologize, because I don't think I did anything wrong and I'd do it again.

Relationship length is 8 months.

Was I really wrong and out of line here?

TLDR: I stopped my 14 year old cousin from flirting with a 20 year old boy and took her to her parents, girlfriend thinks I overstepped and should apologize. Was I wrong?

Submitted March 28, 2019 at 04:19PM by Confocoma https://ift.tt/2UlCbGY