Should I (27f) still give my mother(55f) a gift my uncle (54m) chose before he died after my grandfather (70m) told me not to?

On Monday my uncle passed away from terminal cancer. He was unwell for 2 months before he died but the diagnosis only came 2 weeks ago.

During his time in the hospital he asked my mother to organise some gifts for his parents and two best friends, she selected these items. He asked me to organise one for my mother. Each gift cost £100 and was to be paid for from my uncle's money which my grandfather has access to. My mother received the money for the gifts she purchased however I have not had the money for her gift yet. My mother is unaware of her gift.

I paid for the gift however it has not arrived yet. It is engraved with a message my uncle wrote and he selected the gift.

Today my grandfather called me to tell me he would not be giving me the money for it and told me I was not to give it to my mother. He is concerned that due to my mother having two other brothers they would feel left out. He is clearly upset but he's just lost his son.

He would not listen to me telling him that this is what my uncle specifically wanted. He forbade me from giving it to her.

The money is not a huge concern. I can afford it if I make adjustments to my budget. I want to give this to my mother. She was very close with my uncle and the other brothers didn't have that relationship with him. If they get jealous that's not really my fault, I did what my dying uncle asked of me.

Either way this gift has been paid for and engraved. It's not returnable. I don't really want to put it in a cupboard when it could offer her some comfort.

Do I give her this gift? Should I tell her not to show anyone else?

Tl:dr I bought a gift that my uncle requested for my mother. My grandfather told me not to give it to her as other people may get upset.

Submitted December 02, 2018 at 04:26AM by jdat https://ift.tt/2SnWD5K