A week and a half ago, my now ex and I were talking about taking our relationship to the next step but what has kept him from doing that is because I am not Jewish. He was raised Jewish (Conservative), however, his sisters both married Christians, and his family (who adore me) doesn't care what I am.
I offered to convert but even after me meeting with a rabbi to discuss conversion, it's not enough for him. He is afraid he is taking a risk with me when it comes to raising Jewish children. We broke up. He still wants to be best friends and the fact that I'm not talking to him is making him very upset.
However...as much as I love and miss him...I can't bring myself around to being friends with him. It just feels like I can meet his emotional and sexual needs, and yet at the end of the day, the circumstances I was born into prevent him from being with me. I have asked him up and down if it's something else, and he has said no. I asked if I was born Jewish, could he be in a serious relationship with me and he said yes.
I am the only non-Jew he has dated in his adult life. It just hurts so much that he still wants to be in my life and yet, because of something out of my control- I'm not it. And even if I wanted to change it, I'm still not it. I was wondering if anyone found themselves in a similar situation or has any tips on how to move on from this, I'd be appreciative.
tl;dr: My now ex broke up with me because even if I converted to Judaism, it's still not enough, and I'm wondering how to cope with this as he still wants to be my best friend.
Submitted December 01, 2018 at 06:50PM by abestfriendsmeans https://ift.tt/2PfnGOC
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