She [28/F] wants to have sex with me ONCE [26/M] and then just be friends after and I'm confused on how to proceed.

This shit is like straight out of a Lifetime movie. Please read the whole thing. At the very least its a juicy story.

We have a lot of history together. She is currently going through a divorce with a former childhood friend of mine. Him and I now hate each other for other reasons unrelated to her. He is doing his own thing right now too but they still live together. Split finances and they sleep in separate rooms.

November- March of last year

Last year in November we admitted we had feelings for each other and basically dated for about 4 months even though it was never made "official." Sometimes we would see each other every day. She was always back and forth every 2 weeks between wanting to be more than friends and friends. The constant flip flop was super frustrating and I didn't like how unstable and indecisive she was especially combined with everything else going on. She claimed it was awkward for her because I used to be good friends with the guy she is currently divorcing. After about 4 months I broke it off. She went ballistic and told me she never wanted to talk to me again and she thought out of all the people that would abandon her that I would be the last one. I honestly thought there was another guy and felt like I was just being played. I was trying to spare myself heartbreak. I know that doesn't make much sense because she wouldn't have time for another guy because of the amount of time we were together but....

After I broke it off we started talking again 2 months later and she was with some Army Ranger who lives across the country. Doing some long distance thing. About the time I came back around the relationship was at the tail end of things with him. After he fucked her he then ghosted her. She was deeply hurt by that because she at the time doesn't give up sex easily and just wanted him to like her and she wasn't ready. She claimed after I left she got lonely and he started reaching out to her and things went from there. My gut tells me she is lying and was talking to him the whole time her and I were "together." I can't prove it though. She also would of been down in that area in February for her birthday visiting this girl she is friends with. The girl and the Army Ranger know each other. The guy is good friends with her friends boyfriend and they live in the same town.

Over the summer:

Right after this Army Ranger broke her heart I came back in the picture. We talked about working things out and trying again. She led me on all summer and it never went anywhere. She has always told me she doesn't do casual sex and that it's only for committed relationships yet she went on Bumble and found some fuck buddy where they created this entire bucket list of sex related things. She eventually fucked him mid- August even though the week before she was telling me she wanted to fuck me and was sending me nudes and shit AGAIN! We had been fighting all summer because I once again was irritated she couldn't make up her mind. During this same time period her and I got into this huge fight and we stopped speaking to each other. At the time I had no idea she had even fucked this guy or anything. Didn't find out about any of the stuff in this paragraph till later on.

Despite not knowing what was going on at the time I still had this gut feeling and that was a huge part of our major fight in August and I was deeply hurt. We didn't speak for about 6 weeks after our fight and then she "accidentally texted" me and that is when I found out about all this and MORE. Turns out she got pregnant with his kid like the first time they hooked up and he ghosted her for like 3 weeks. She had it aborted and he didn't help or pay for shit. The entire process was a fucking mess, was drawn out over like an 8 week period and medical complications were involved in the process not to mention a lot of emotional trauma. Like a moron I covered some of the medical expenses because she really needed a doctor due to serious infection.

The last few months:

After 3 weeks he comes back and says he is sorry and he just panicked and those two start hanging out again. Then all of a sudden after 2 weeks they aren't cool anymore with each other. I guess he wanted to keep fucking her but she no longer wanted to and he would get pissy so she thought his apology was bullshit and it was just to get more sex so she ended it.

Then a few weeks later she is all over me. Telling me she loves me and all this shit. I'm skeptical given our history and don't reciprocate at all which leads her to constantly ask every day if " I'm mad" and how it makes everything so much worse if I'm mad. I finally start to reciprocate and she basically goes cold and distant and once again I'm left like wtf.

She tells me she has feelings for me still but isn't ready for a relationship and she would ruin things because she is to fucked up and tells me " right now I'm not the girl you love." Then tells me we just have to be friends and can never be more. Like WTF she chased after me and started all this shit back up again when I was over it and I didn't even reciprocate anything for weeks and she just pushed and pushed for more. Then I give in and she runs.

Then she says that this guy is reaching out to her again blowing up her phone with texts and calling like everyday saying how sorry he is and how much he misses her. Guy has lost his shit and has unraveled. She claims she will never see him again and hates him but doesn't block him and will passive aggressively respond to his barrage of texts occasionally. That she only used him for sex and that was the point because he was easily disposable then because she felt nothing for him but won't just block him.

This irritates me because I felt like she choose him over me. She says she didn't and never compared the two of us. That she actually has feelings for me and because I'm not disposable sex practice partner and that is why she went with him. She acts like I should be happy about it because I mean a lot to her unlike this guy and I should be happy she didn't look at me as disposable. She has apologized multiple times to me about the whole ordeal and says it was a mistake.

The other night I'm over at her house. She constantly makes passive aggressive comments every time someone calls me or texts me. Comments like " oh is that your girlfriend calling." Then we are sitting on the couch and that dude starts texting her again and I say " I'm sure you two will work it out and start hanging out again." She goes ballistic because she hates if I even suggest they ever hang out again and how that is disrespectful to her. I get pissed and start rehashing everything in this post. She says she doesn't want a relationship with me and doesn't want to have sex with me and for me to get over everything from the past. I leave and this shit continues through text. She says we should end things and not speak to each other anymore because we have to much history together and we will never be able to move on but we keep hashing it out even after she says this.

Then all of a sudden the next day she is like. " I have an idea." Takes the whole day to tell me what it is because she is " embarrassed." Tells me she wants to bang it out one time and wants me to anger fuck everything out on her. Sends me a few pics of her in the shower and then says we move on from the past as friends going forward after we fuck. For the last week she has been acting kind of weird now and is just " super busy, tired and stressed out, but still wants to fuck. Like my mind is blown at this point. I want to have sex with her again but its like I probably shouldn't and should just move on from all this craziness. Should I just bang her and move on? Should I just leave now. Literally no idea what to do because she can just do a 180 from whatever position to had from the day before.

TLDR: Girl wants me to anger fuck our past out on her and then move on as friends afterward. Not sure how to proceed.

Submitted December 27, 2018 at 08:34AM by Blackmagic1992 http://bit.ly/2Rfz2qZ