My boyfriend is suddenly doing everything he can to avoid having sex with me

For the past couple of weeks my boyfriend has been acting strangely whenever I bring up sex or having sex.

It wasn’t a problem during our first few months of dating, only in recent weeks. He will come up with a different excuse each time (sore back, starting a different conversation, etc.). He takes medication which makes him drowsy, which I understand - but he only takes it once a day and usually it’s when we’re alone and have the opportunity to get intimate, which makes me wonder if he’s using that to get out of it too. Also, he’s been on the meds since we started dating and they haven’t stopped him before.

One example is that he has sometimes opted to “pleasure himself” in the morning before he goes to see me at night, so he can’t have sex with me that night because he won’t finish because he can’t twice in one day.

Recently we went camping and we tried while we were there. He had trouble. I tried to ask him what was wrong/what’s going on and he got defensive. I was empathetic because I know it can be embarrassing when this happens. However, I was surprised and upset when he said it was hard for him to get it up when I was just lying there like this impression of a lifeless person. It made me cry. He’s never been like this before, I thought he loved having sex with me.

It makes me very self conscious when I ask if he wants to have sex but he says no. I understand consent etc. - I don’t think he’s an asshole for not being in the mood. But that comment made me concerned. I worry that he prefers watching porn and that he’s not as attracted to me as he once was.

I’ve been in 3 serious relationships before, and I’ve been cheated on in each one. I try to be rational but it’s just so hard with my relationship history.

I don’t want to be the thing that just lies around waiting for him to have sex with me whenever he wants. I want it to be mutual. How do I bring this up with him? Is this a warning sign?

Tldr; boyfriend has recently been making excuses to get out of sex and he also said a mean comment about how I am in bed, it’s making me self conscious, how do I react?

Submitted December 02, 2018 at 06:21PM by throwaawaay01210 https://ift.tt/2QAw8ws