My [23/F] boyfriend [28/M] just told me he does not see himself with just one person for the rest of his life.

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now and recently we made plans to move to a new city. All along, we have been pretty open about what we want out of this relationship. For the both of us, we are in this for the long-term and have openly spoke about marriage etc. Just to be clear, I don't expect or ask for marriage from him since our relationship is still pretty new. I just say cutesy things like "I wanna marry you" and "I wanna be with you forever" those sort of things.

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While we were discussing the details of the big move, he said he wanted to take back the commitment about marriage and about us being together "forever" because he does not want to feel responsible for me if we break up in the future. I understand where he is coming from, as I do think that we might be moving too fast. but he also said at this point in his life, he does not see himself being together with just one person for the rest of his life. I am hurt at this remark as I see myself as a very committed person. I clarified with him and he said he is still in this for the long term, but I cannot understand his point of view. For me, if I'm in this for the long term, I see him as a potential life partner. But he is telling me that he loves me and he is in it for the long run, but yet he does not see himself with just one person for the rest of his life? All I am getting out of this, is that he is not serious about me. It's really heart wrenching because I love him, and I want to work together with him to build a life together, but it seems that he is just treating me as another phase in his life since he "does not see himself with just one person for the rest of his life".

Edit: i feel that i should add one crucial detail to this post. I am not sure if i should doubt his commitment to me because when he was applying for jobs, every step involved me. He consulted me and even rejected job opportunities for me. I feel so confused right now as his actions and words are sending mixed signals...

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tl;dr boyfriend said he cannot see himself being with one person for the rest of his life. am i wrong to see this as him not being serious about me?

Submitted December 03, 2018 at 04:55AM by DullStrategy https://ift.tt/2KPEHy7