My (22f) partner (26m) of two years finally introduced me to his family, but only as a "friend", his family treated me like garbage and my partner won't defend me, what should I do?

My partner of two years, my 26 year old boyfriend, finally took me to meet his family. We are both college students and he said his family lived in another state. They actually live five minutes from the school. He tried to tell me they just moved there but his father said that was his childhood home and they have pictures of him as a baby in that home.

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It gets worse, as the christmas celebration went on, I assumed he had told him we were dating, but his family kept saying they hope he meets a nice girl. I tried to explain that we were dating and talking about moving in after graduation but he interrupted me and said that we were moving in as friends to save money. I was baffled. His mother was mostly polite to me, but she said he ought to be with a nice italian girl, and I am half jewish half moroccan, so I guess I don't fit?

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Some of his cousins were actually pretty nice to me and seemed to understand the situation. However, his dad made weird comments about my nose saying stuff like "you must be in finances with that nose" and jokingly said he wanted to keep an eye on the silverware with me in the house. My boyfriend just stared at the wall and said nothing. Later in the evening, his brother started joking that it must be cold in here and pointed at my chest. I was frozen and felt my face turn red. His brother's girlfriend started slapping him and saying that it was not okay. My boyfriend did not say a thing to defend me.

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Later christmas evening the family essentially forced me to get into a hottub with them, which felt gross.I didn't bring a swimsuit, so I had to wear one of the girl cousins' bikinis, which was way too small, and at one point my entire ...you know...fell out while I was in the hot tub, so I had to dip underwater and try to fix it. I felt so embarrased I could cry. I said I wanted to go back inside and his mother started screaming at me that it's a tradition to stay in the hot tub until midnight, so I had to awkwardly sit there after everyone saw my chest.

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When my boyfriend and I left in the morning after christmas, I was so angry I spent the entire morning telling him it humiliated me that he never defended me. He refused to say literally anything and walked out of the house, drove away, came back in the evening and only said he would not talk about it.

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tldr:

My boyfriend took me to a humiliating christmas celebration with his family, whom I thought lived in another state. They insulted me and yelled at me. My boyfriend did not defend me at all. Should I stay with him? How can I force me boyfriend to care about how his family insulted me?

Submitted December 27, 2018 at 08:01PM by loloderby http://bit.ly/2TcQIAP