Me [20s M] and Fiancee [20s F]. Her family disrespected me this weekend and now I don't know what to do.

Reddit, I'd like some additional perspective on a situation that developed yesterday, if possible.

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My fiancee's family (her mom, dad, and sister) are visiting us this weekend. They had to travel to get here by car as we both moved away from home. I'm not from the area where she grew up, but its a similar distance from my home and same type of area: rural, small town, etc. Due to this distance, we have both not been able to spend as much time together with them as we would have liked since our engagement in May.

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On to yesterday. When we were walking around the city with them, we stopped in a rather well-known bookstore that is locally-owned and a big party of the city's community. While inside, we were just talking, looking at books, and figuring out what to do next as it was a bit rainy. At one point, my fiancee, her mom, and I are talking in roughly the center of the of a very busy bookstore. Her mom, who had a bit rougher of a childhood and is often known for affectionately, but playfully flicking people square in the forehead really, really hard proceeded to do this to me. Nothing prior really triggered this, but she proceeded to grab my hand and when I wanted wanted her to let go, after my fiancee indicated her to stop, she proceeded to flick me really hard right in the middle of my forehead. I would have more directly said to stop had I actually known what was going to happen, but I have never been in a situation like this before. From my background, there is a distinct barrier between older adults and a young couple like us. Simply put, I don't touch them, they don't touch me unless hugging, regular and friendly gestures, etc. This is all very strange and uncomfortable to me.

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After this happened, my fiancee and I separated from her mom and she tried to make me feel better, but she was laughing at me. This entire time I was very frustrated and confused on what happened, why, and what to do and think about it. I was mostly hurt because my fiancee was just laughing at me. This is something I would have never done to her. We have both spent a lot of time together, always supported one another, etc, but this really took me by surprise. Over the past couple of months since our engagement, we have worked really hard to plan our wedding and my schedule is particularly busy because I work full-time and go to grad school full-time. All I wanted to do was to spend time with her family this weekend and have a great time, but I now feel extremely offended at being publicly disrespected like I was.

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Following the library, I had a noticeably different demeanor and didn't really interact with her family that much, as I felt very disrespected. I love my fiancee, but I am really quite shocked that she still thinks this is all fairly normal. It's not even so much of the flicking, itself, but the disrespect such action has socially. It's just not something you do to people you love, as I see it. This is not normal to me and I am feeling humiliated and not sure what to think and how to proceed.

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TLDR; fiancee's mom humiliated me in public and was told this is all fairly normal

Submitted December 02, 2018 at 05:28AM by InformalFlounder https://ift.tt/2PfhRke