My BF (28/M) gets annoyed by everything I (28/F) say lately. He makes fun of me when he makes me cry. Am I really that unbearable? Should I just give him space?

We live together. We have been together for 5 years.

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The past two weeks, he seems colder than usual. He doesn't kiss me when he returns from work, and doesn't seem excited to see me. If I text him, he responds with "IDK" or something similar. Disinterested. I don't know what has caused this. I have done nothing differently. Nothing has changed. Except that he recently found out he's getting a large inheritance in a couple of months, and that he's organizing a big music event for which he's very excited and I feel like he's acting a little full of himself because of it.

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Anything I say, he finds annoying and finds fault with it. Today, I noticed him sending lots of really long text messages to someone and I said something like oh wow I've never received any texts like that from you! What essay are you writing over there? With a giggle and a smile. He responded by saying: "You need to stop doing shit like that." I really don't think what I said merited his reaction and frustration?

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Earlier, I was writing a very important work text, and I asked if I could read him a sentence from it that I was excited to share and thought was kind of brilliant. He rolled his eyes in his head and slammed his hand on the couch and said he wasn't in the mood, and why do I always talk about myself and my work, and that I am full of myself and selfcentered. All of this because I asked to read ONE SENTENCE out to him...

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When he returns home from work he literally stares at his phone all day. He says he's busy organizing this big music thing he's working on and has a lot of work to do. His idea of a perfect evening is for him to sit on his phone at one end of the couch and me on the other watching shitty television and not saying a word to him, I guess. He told me I need to "get a life" and "find friends."

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I am starting to feel like I'm going crazy, as I'm now anxious about saying anything at all. If I cry about this, he makes fun of me and tells me that I'm putting on a "nice show." The other day I freaked out after he told me to stop talking again and I was crying and he started recording me with video to "show me how crazy I looked." This really hurt me. He told me to "look in the mirror" when I told him I wasn't crazy.

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Also, the other day ... I found out that he accepted the follow of ex gf on Instagram. His instagram is private and his name is not attached to it, so I found it odd that she would find it. He didn't follow her back but I was still a little put off that he'd let her to see his/our life in pictures when he could've easily clicked "no." I simply asked him why he thinks she would follow him now... that's all I asked ... and he flipped out on me and told me I was a psycho bitch and made me cry and then I actually did feel psycho, even though I promise to you I very calmly asked why in the world she would want to follow him after all these years...

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I have bad anxiety that is recurring and makes me feel like I can't breathe and he is currently making it worse. I would love to know what could cause him to treat me in such a way for no reason? I have changed nothing about my behavior.

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Please help. What do I do? Should I just go away for a few days? I can't figure out why I am bothering him so much all of a sudden...

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tl;dr: My BF (28/M) gets annoyed by everything I (28/F) say lately. He makes fun of me when he makes me cry. Am I really that unbearable? Should I just give him space?

Submitted November 16, 2018 at 08:09PM by musicroomloud https://ift.tt/2DHHl8x