Over the years, dad has been a pretty toxic parent to us, but mostly our sister. Mom died of cancer when I was 15, and I moved out when I was 21.
I have always been present in her life and been there for her when she needs anything. Dad generally covers her needs very well, but he is not a warm person and is really quick to get angry. He used to beat her for "misbehaving" (basic kids attitude nothing major, and once even belted her for forgetting the key inside and locking themselves out for a few hours) until she was 8 probably, although that thing with the key she was 11-12 I think. I never said anything about it and now hate myself a little for never standing up for her.
He accused her of being a lesbian when she was 14 for not having ever had a boyfriend, then grounded her earlier this year for dating a college dude, which I see the reason why, the dude had like 5 years on her, but he always handles things with outrage and never has any constructive talks about anything.
He gives her dirty looks and runs his mouth for wearing anything he considers inappropriate or too revealing. I heard him once say that she couldn't wear leggings because her body was too developed (last year, she was 15), and she told me he once told her to put on a bra at home.
Right now I feel like the worst brother in the world, I have somehow prided myself in being there for her except I have never significantly stood up for her. I have never called out dad for his general attitude, only specific instances.
How can I help her right now? What can I do to protect her better? How can I be a better brother than I have been so far?
tl;dr: Dad has mistreated and abused my sister for years and I have never stood up for her. What can I do now to be a better brother than I have been so far?
Submitted November 16, 2018 at 07:17AM by Standard_Counter https://ift.tt/2Bb8PRj
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