I [19F] feel like my parents [40sF/50sM] treat me and my sister [9] differently from our other sister [12]

I’m mentally disabled for lack of a better phrase. I have schizoaffective bipolar (schizophrenia+bipolar) and complex PTSD. Sometimes I go through really tough times, my mom is always there for me. My dad is always supporting me in what I choose to do. For example, I wanted to take ice skating classes last year and he generously offered to pay for them.

Due to my illness I can end up in the hospital a lot and my mom is always asking how I’m doing, if I want to go get food or the store, she has a lot of patience and never yells or scolds me. She also spends a lot of time with me, especially when I was younger and couldn’t be left unsupervised.

My sister A is 9. There is obviously something very wrong mentally with her and my parents are trying to find a therapist. She is the baby of the family. And basically gets everything she wants. I wouldn’t say she’s a brat, just very sensitive. She has a hard time making friends and when my mom heard about this she immediately went to talk to the school. Both my parents hold long conversations with her, help her with homework, my dad spends hours helping her build legos.

Now, M is 12. She was having trouble with school and my mom...didn’t do much. She made one call to the teacher and that’s it. My parents never ask M about school or her friends. M is overweight. So, they’re always on her about her eating habits. Like, me and A get some food and my dad tells M to stop eating so much, in a rude way. I’m honestly afraid she’s going to develop an eating disorder. I don’t think I’ve ever seen my parents help her with homework or invite her friends over or tell her good job (she has all A’s).

I don’t want M to feel left out. But I don’t know how. I love both my sisters a lot and I can’t help notice how differently my parents treat me and A because of our mental health. When I was around M’s age was when my depression was really kicking in. I don’t want that for my sister.

TLDR; Parents are more involved in mine [19F] and sister’s [9] lives due to our poor mental health and are barely involved in our other sister’s [12] life. They give me and my 9 yr old sister more attention than my 12 yr old sister. I want to help my 12 yr old sister so she doesn’t feel left out.

Submitted November 16, 2018 at 07:12AM by goodluckcat87 https://ift.tt/2K9eL03