Okay so let me start off with I know I fucked up but just please let me know if I’m being unreasonable or not. Recently my boyfriend (26) and I (25) have discovered that I’m pregnant. I’m really nervous and excited about it but really worried about it as well. I’ve never really been a fan of recreational weed because I don’t see a point in it. I see the medical usage of it but if you’re just smoking without having any illnesses then I think it’s unnecessary. Plus it’s always been a turn off for me whenever I see people smoke even cigarettes. I’ve tried it in the past to see the hype but it’s just not my thing. Throughout our relationship my boyfriend has asked me that if it bothers me that he smokes then he’ll stop. Me being a people pleaser and just looking past it because he has other good qualities and I love him has told him that I don’t like it but it doesn’t really bother me if he continues to do it (when really does). Plus he had a job and takes care of his responsibilities and me. It’s just I’ve had some really bad experiences recently with weed so I dislike even more and I was raised in the traditional Mexican household so I have a bad mentally over it. Over the years I’ve comes around it more it’s just always in the back of my mind that it’s still a drug. But I try not to be hypocritical over it cause I like alcohol which is technically a drug. (Not drinking btw!) Anyways I’ve just been getting irritated with him smoking and I really don’t want our baby to be exposed to it. I’ve expressed that I really wish that he would stop smoking but I can’t help but feel guilty when I ask. And I only feel guilty because he’s asked me in the past about it and I’ve said I don’t care but it’s different now. I want him to stop on his own because I know if I keep nagging about it it’s not going to encourage him to stop. I think about the future and I really don’t want to explain to my child why dad has to go step away to smoke. Idk if I’m being crazy or hypocritical. I just know that it’s stressing me out and making me feel unhappy.
TLDR: Is it wrong of me to ask my boyfriend to stop smoking because we’re having a baby? I just want to prevent our baby from being exposed to weed until they’re old enough to understand it. I know my boyfriend doesn’t overuse it but he’s told me he can stop if he wants me to and when I’ve expressed yes he gets irritated at me for going back on my word. Personally I’ve had it set in stone that I wouldn’t want to have weed around my kid. Should my boyfriend respect my wishes or should am I overreacting?
Submitted February 21, 2023 at 02:38PM by Sneaky_reddolphin https://ift.tt/JH3bAM4
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