My boyfriend (33m) and I (22f) can't agree about the dog sleeping in his bed while or before I sleep there.

My boyfriend Vic has a big dog, a mix of German shepherd and Pitbull and maybe a few other things, he was a rescue.

I've never had any pets, not even a fish, and Vic has always had dogs. And honestly while I love dogs, sometimes they gross me out. Like trying to eat another dogs poop, licking their private parts, rolling in mud or poop, slobber... Like I will cuddle or pet a dog but I won't let them lick my face and I'll wash my hands afterwards.

Vic is definitely more used to the kinda grossness that comes with dogs than I am.

He lets his dog sleep in bed and cuddle on the sofa with him. He has a house and the dog has free run of the house and can go in any of the rooms except the attic which has been converted into a guestroom. And that's just because the steps up there are ladderlike, and the dog can't climb them.

So, when I went over Vic's house at first, when we were dating, I'd go home at night. We were just taking stuff slow physically and not sleeping together early on. But now that we're together, the dog in the bed is kinda becoming a disagreement.

When I come over his place, I don't want to sleep in the same bed or room as his dog. When he's home alone, he lets his dog sleep in his bed. He doesn't notice the smell but I can definitely smell the difference between clean sheets and bedding his dog has been sleeping in, it just smells like sweaty wet dog.

I said that when I stay over, I'd rather either sleep in the attic guestroom, or sleep in his bedroom but only if he keeps his dog out of the room and washes changes the sheets and comforter if his dog has been on the bed since the last wash.

I just find the bed icky if the dog's been in it, and I can't sleep with the dog's heavy breathing and snoring and moving around a lot in the same room.

He never wanted to sleep together in the attic, since he finds the bed uncomfortable.

As for his bedroom, he did that a few times, washing the sheets and comforter. But he started to get annoyed, saying that it was too much work and that washing the down comforter weekly was damaging it.

I suggested maybe we sleep in the attic when I'm over, or he gets his dog a bed in the other room and trains him to stay off his bed, if he doesn't want to clean the bedding so often.

He said that I was being unreasonable, his dog had been in his life for four years and I was being unreasonable to come in and ask him to kick his dog out of the bed and room. I said he didn't have to, but I just was gonna start going home at night.

So we did that for a while but he also got irritated I also never wanted to have sex at his place unless he washed the bedding first.

I feel like I'm being pretty reasonable and giving him a bunch of options but he feels like I'm being unreasonable and asking him to pick between me and his dog.

TLDR - My boyfriend wants to share a bed with his dog. I sometimes want to sleep with my boyfriend but I don't want to sleep in bed with his dog or in sheets that smell strongly of dog. How do we compromise?

Submitted April 08, 2022 at 02:14PM by daisydgoo https://ift.tt/OTfJMli