So I’ve (24M) been dating a girl (26F) for about 8 months but we’ve been best friends for about a year. She’s amazing and we love each other so much. We’ve talked about spending the rest of our lives together, where we want to live, etc. I’ve never had a girlfriend before her because I’ve never been around a girl who makes me so happy and makes me laugh so much. Personality, looks, etc she is amazing. However there are a couple things that are making me wonder if I should break up with her.
First is that she wants me to propose to her in the next two years and get pregnant by the time she’s 30. Her biggest dream in life is to be a mother and she’s going to be an amazing one. The thing about this is that I’d be 25 when we get married and 28 when my first kid would be born by this timeline. I’ve always envisioned myself having a kid in my mid 30’s since I want to enjoy life without a child (traveling, working, etc). It’s difficult for me because I either have to bite the bullet and become a father about 7 years earlier than I’d like or I have to give up the perfect girl. Financially I’ve saved a ton of money and invested super well so I have upper six figures in savings. I feel like having a kid would wipe away everything I’ve worked for investments wise. The reason this is important to me is I feel like if I waited till I’m 35ish I’d have a lot saved and wouldn’t ever have to really worry about money. Also my family wouldn’t want me to have a kid by 28 since they think it’s dumb and it’s important to mature more and be in a established place in life.
My conondrum is that I want to wait a couple years to see how I’d feel about kids at that point in my life but she thinks I’m down to have kids at 28. However since I’m not sure I feel like I need to decide soon because if I don’t want to have them until my mid 30’s she deserves to have time to find a husband and have kids with him.
Also our sex drives are a big issue as I would like to have sex around 4-7 times a week while she only wants to once a week. And if we have kids I think that’ll only diminish.
Our final issue is her vaccination stance. She’s never getting the Covid vaccine and although this has been frustrating I’ve accepted her viewpoint. However, she has said she doesn’t want to give our kids most of the recommended shots.
Overall I really don’t want to lose since I can’t see there being a better girl out there but I feel like there are some really big obstacles. I’d really appreciate your thoughts.
TLDR: I don’t have much time to decide if I want to breakup or have kids in 4 years
Submitted November 02, 2021 at 05:09PM by Fluffy-Standard4757 https://ift.tt/2ZQa4nJ
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