My (32m) fiancé (26f) accidentally texted the wrong group chat and now I’m a “manipulative, insensitive asshole.”

So my fiancé and I haven’t had sex in about four months. She says she’s been having issues with getting in the mood because a lot of trauma from the past has been resurfacing lately.

I respect this completely as I have experienced sexual abuse myself.

Everything else has been fine between us. We’re just very busy; I work about 80 hours a week and she is a full time fashion blogger. In our free time together we go for walks or watch movies etc. I usually cook the meals but sometimes we bake together.

Anyway, yesterday a weird thing happened. For context, she has a girls chat with like 9 of her friends from when she was in high school and college. She has another group chat with all those girls plus me from when we all took a trip to Greece last winter.

I’m fairly certain she meant to text the girls chat yesterday, but texted the chat with me in it by mistake.

She sent a bunch of screen shots from some random guy’s Facebook account followed by a bunch of drooling emojis and splash emojis. Then her and her friends started chatting about him.

I didn’t see the chat until later in the day and when I read through it I was pretty hurt by what I saw. Apparently he’s a guy in one of her classes. My fiancé was in the chat talking about how “wet” he makes her and how badly she wants to fuck him.

None of the girls even mentioned me, which kind of hurt because I thought that I had become close friends with some of them especially this girl named Bri who was my fiancé’s dorm mate in college.

After reading through the whole chat I responded to it saying “are you mad at me?”

She didn’t respond and neither did any of the girls. After about twenty minutes I texted the chat again and singled out Bri. I said “Bri I thought we were good friends, why would you not mention me while (my fiancé’s name) is talking about wanting to fuck this dude?”

Nobody responded to the chat for the rest of the day and I had to turn my attention to work anyway.

Towards the end of the shift, I texted my fiancé and asked what she wanted me to make for dinner. She responded “whatever you want, idc”

When I got home I greeted her and asked how her day was. She just laughed.

I started making chicken pesto in the kitchen and she stormed in while I was using the food processor and started yelling. She was like “Really?! You’re just gonna act like today didn’t happen?”

I responded “With the group chat stuff? Nobody responded to me so I figured we were just dropping it.”

Her: “Wow that’s great. Yeah let’s just not handle it at all.”

I laughed and said “I mean I tried to talk about it but, again, no one responded.”

Then she called me a manipulative insensitive asshole and didn’t talk to me for the rest of the night, didn’t even eat a bite of dinner.

I’m at work rn trying to figure out what to do next. She still seems pissed.

Tl;dr: fiancé is pissed

Submitted November 02, 2021 at 09:51AM by smorgcyborg https://ift.tt/3mFyvxp