My mom is saying I'm not allowed to talk about her boyfriend making me uncomfortable with any family.

For context I am (14F) living with my grandparents, my mother (38F), and my brother (18M) I recently went on a trip to see my mother with her new boyfriend because she had been away staying with her boyfriend for a month or two. While I was there her boyfriend made me super uncomfortable, drinking a lot, touching me to get my attention during dinner constantly (8-15 times on like my waist and shoulder, nothing sexual) And I made it clear to my mom I was not a big fan of her boyfriend and that he was making me super uncomfortable. She talked to him about drinking and for the last few days of the trip he stopped drinking and making me uncomfortable. And promised me she would break up with him once we got back home.

During the day of our flight to fly back to our hometown we got into several arguments. she wouldn’t put on her mask while standing in line for security even though several staff asked her to. When I told her she was embarrassing me she proceeded to say “well get over it.” She would pull her mask to her chin and make jokes about it and when I ignored her she said something along the lines of “can you get the stick out of your ass?” We kept arguing about the flight time aswell, she thought the flight was at 3:00 meanwhile it was at 2:00. She wouldn’t listen to me and would yell at me when I was trying to speed walk to our flight. She was stopping at make up shops and food stops the entire time. We ended up missing our flight and she was getting angry at the staff and being really immature, it felt so embarrassed because she was acting like a karen dramatically sighing and getting upset.

Right before takeoff she kept getting into my personal space and kept angrily saying “why do you have such an attitude” being really loud and obnoxious to where other people were staring at us. Whenever I tried to say “can you please get out of my personal space?” Because she was directly in my face and leaning her entire upper body into my seat so I was backed up into the wall since I was in the window seat. We ended up arguing and she just ignored me throughout the entire flight sleeping. We had a flight agent ask her around 10 different times to put her mask on and I was just so embarrassed.

Skipping to presently my brother (18M) had his graduation, we had our family there and my mom texted me mid way through I quote “Don’t tell people bad things about (BF) or even mention that you don’t like him. Just say he’s alright or I don’t know him well enough if anything. That’s Including Your cousin, Aunt, grandfather, etc. Just saying, I don’t want anyone knowing my business.” It was so random and out of the blue. We were waiting for my brother to walk out onto stage. I understand she doesn’t want anybody having bad feelings against him but it’s not just her business… I really want to talk to my grandpa about it because I feel like I cannot trust my mom anymore.

She has changed so much since her trip. She doesn’t care about anybody else anymore, she’s super obnoxious and rude. She drinks so much now compared to what she did. She snatches my phone out of my hands and is constantly checking to see who I am texting or calling. She always has checked my phone and went through my room when I’m sleeping but it’s never been this bad. She told me she would always put me first but I feel like she isn’t at all. I’m currently staying at my aunts house with her and my brother and I honestly don’t want to be here. When I told her that I was homesick and asked when we were going home since she told me it would only be the weekend before hand and it had already been three days she told me to get over it. My brother and I are leaving by ourselves back to our grandparents because he agreed that she’s being so rude and has changed. I feel so frustrated around and she’s always assuming it’s because she tells me to get off my phone. When it’s not, it’s just her presence. She told me she would break up with her boyfriend but still doesnt. She’s constantly texting him and calling him. What do I do? Do I talk to my grandfather? Please help

TL;DR: My mom is saying I'm not allowed to talk about her boyfriend making me uncomfortable with any of my family members. She's not putting me first and acting rude and obnoxious all of a sudden.

Submitted June 02, 2021 at 01:47AM by milkyology200 https://ift.tt/3vKzChm