Ok, I’d been dating this woman for about a year and a half. She’s 40, I’m 39. For the most part things have been amazing. We had a couple of brief stints of breaking up. She would find some small reason and ghost me for a week or two but always came back and would be more loving than ever. We both have had hard pasts so I tried to look past these times. Anyway, things were better than ever and had been for months. She went in for her yearly exam, which she skipped the last one right after we got together. It came back abnormal and positive for HPV. She was an absolute wreck. She always made jokes about how gross she thought STD’s were and all this. She said she was gross, disgusting, etc....she apologized tearfully because she had now surely given it to me. She assumed she had gotten it from the aquaintance with benefits she had kept for two years prior to us getting together. Long story there and one I could never get all of, just that it wasn’t friends and was guaranteed to never have emotions involved. Yes, it’s possible that it came from me but unlikely as it had been 4 years since I’d been with anyone. She becomes very withdrawn, doesn’t want touched. I go out of my way to be supportive and put her feelings first. I told her I didn’t care at all and it didn’t change anything for me. Which was true, at the time she was the only person I would be with from here on out so it didn’t matter to me. I showed her the research. Stayed very positive for her. A few weeks went by and she wouldn’t have sex which, was a huge part of the relationship for her. It caused some loss of connection but she eventually gave in and things went back to normal. She had her colposcopy which came back fine but no more sex for a couple weeks due to healing. She tells me that she had to have a colposcopy the previous test as well but no HPV diagnosis which is why she had skipped the yearly test when we got together, as she didn’t wanna go thru it again. So, we take a weekend trip and become intimate again, things seem fine. I mean, this woman is the love of my life. Then we come back and two days later she basically ghosts me. Once I finally get her to talk (barely) she tells me that she thinks that I knew I had HPV and gave it to her. She said that the way I acted like I didn’t care and it didn’t matter means I knew I had it already. And now a mole that I’ve had since birth and is 4 inches from my penis is now a wart in her mind. I don’t get it, I try to be supportive and be there for her and it causes this? Now I’m heartbroken, with an STD surely. And I would never take a chance on knowing I had this and spread it to someone!
tl;dr! My gf found out she has HPV and admitted it probably came from her. But because I was supportive and acted as though I didn’t care she dumped me because she thinks I gave it to her now.
Submitted November 05, 2019 at 05:18PM by cubiesfan05 https://ift.tt/34saYEa
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