I [29m] think my wife [27f] hates me.

I [29m] think my wife [27f] hates me.

I don’t know what I hope to accomplish here, maybe I just need to vent to a bunch of strangers.

My wife and I have been married for over 5 years, together for about 7 total. We have known each other for a number of years through church, and once we started dating, everything just clicked into place.

She is my best friend, and I am hers. She went through a depressed period a few years back, and I helped her as best I could. Our sex life was incredible and fulfilling, and we really had a good thing going.

Currently, we have a two year old, and one more on the way. I am absolutely in love with my baby, and she is my greatest achievement. We raise her in a loving home, and I am so grateful to my wife for how she raises her.

I work outside the house, and make a decent income. She stays home and raises our child(ren) and runs a successful business outside of the home.

Things, in my mind, changed during her first pregnancy. She had some complications, and that greatly affected our sex life and overall intimacy. Things never improved in that arena. So far, we are on month 6 of zero sexual or even romantic intimacy.

This has led me to feel rejected and full of self-loathing. I gained weight, stopped returning calls or messages from my friends, and just completely isolated myself outside of work and home. I stopped taking my church and faith seriously. I wake up every day hoping for a miracle, or at least a change of mood. Nothing changes. Everything stays on a path I never signed up for.

We argue and bicker, and I lash out. I am a very quiet and private person, and she dominates arguments because she is a loud and personal person. She has been physical with me in the past, shoving and punching me, but I shrug that off and calm her down as best as I can. She threatens me with divorce because of my lack of motivation and success at work. She threatens divorce if I didn’t do the dishes the night before. She threatens divorce, period.

She says she can’t stand me because of my negativity, and to be honest, I can’t blame her. I can’t seem to get out of this rut that I have been in for the last two years. I feel rejected, alone, and have lost all confidence. I have anxiety over the threat of divorce.

I do not want to divorce, I don’t believe in it, and I don’t want to be separated from my children. Not to mention, I would be ruined financially for the next 20 years. All intimacy is gone. All hope for our original sex life has left my mind, and she is not even interested in my physically in the slightest.

I can’t understand it. I provide. I work hard. I am respectful. I have never been violent or unfaithful. I feel like a fucking loser. A fucking waste of space in her mind. I don’t want another woman, I only want her, and she does not even try.

I have never been depressed or sad or anything like that. I dated a handful of beautiful women before we were together, and I have always been great with women. But now my own wife has ZERO interest in me sexually or any way.

I think that is all I have to say right now. I know this is a rambling mess, but I need this stress off my chest. But thanks for reading, I feel better just having said what I said.

TL:DR My wife rejects me physically and constantly threatens divorce, which would completely ruin my life.

Submitted November 05, 2019 at 04:44PM by dan_wiffle https://ift.tt/2rbSIjU